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Margaret Paul
Margaret Paul writes for http://www.innerbonding.com.


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» 7-Step Foolproof Guide to Creating a Terrible Relationship
By Margaret Paul | Published 05/5/2008 | Relationships | Unrated

No one SAYS they want a terrible relationship, yet so many people go about creating them that we need to assume they must WANT them!

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» Performance Anxiety
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Beverly had suffered from anxiety most of her life.

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» The Five Best Gifts to Give Your Family
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Family | Unrated

When we think of giving gifts, we usually think of things to buy for people.

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» 7 Ways To Improve Your Relationship
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

Good relationships don’t just happen.

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» Happiness Versus Pleasure
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Most of us spend our energy seeking pleasure and avoiding pain.

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» The Underlying Cause of Nervous Breakdowns
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Mental Health | Rating:

Life can offer us many challenges having to do with loss.

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» Ending Relationships Gracefully
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, ending it gracefully is generally a challenge.

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» Are You Addicted to Your Children?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Parenting | Unrated

Anything that we use to get love, avoid pain, and fill up inner emptiness can become an addiction – even our children!

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» Addiction to Blame
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

Allen consulted with me because his wife of 18 years had threatened to leave him if he didn’t stop blaming her all the time.

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» Addiction to Thinking
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

Randall sought my help because he was stuck being miserable and had no idea how to get out of his misery.

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» Addiction to Worry
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Depression | Unrated

Carole started counseling with me because she was depressed.

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» What About Drugs for Anxiety and Depression?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Depression | Unrated

Anxiety and depression are not caused by a lack of drugs.

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» Anniversary Blues
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/13/2006 | Family | Unrated

Jamie and Kurt are a sweet, successful couple in their early thirties.

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» Fear of Intimacy
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

Emotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have.

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» Authoritarian Parenting, Permissive Parenting, or Loving Parenting
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Parenting | Unrated

Angie was brought up by rigid, authoritarian parents who kept her on a tight leash.

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» Beauty, Gratitude and the Open Heart
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

I want to encourage everyone who reads this to consider feeding your soul with beauty.

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» Being an Emotional Victim
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

None of us like to think of ourselves as victims.

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» Caretaking Parents, Entitled Kids
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Parenting | Unrated

Why are there so many demanding children?

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» The Challenges of Single Parenting
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Parenting | Rating:

Single parents have a far greater challenge - they have to be both mother and father to the child.

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» Start Growing Healthy Children Before Getting Pregnant
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Pregnancy | Rating:

yourself regarding good nutrition is a major part of good parenting.

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» Controlling Behavior, Loving Behavior
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

When Zack and Tiffany started counseling with me, they were on the verge of divorce after 16 years of marriage.

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» Control, Helplessness, and Love
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

If we truly accepted our helplessness over others, would we continue to get angry at them?

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» Are You Controlling or Loving Yourself?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

We have a very good reason for judging ourselves.

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» The Courage to Be a Loving Parent
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Parenting | Unrated

Most of us really don’t like it when someone is angry at us.

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» Emotional Dependency or Emotional Responsibility
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

Emotional dependency means getting one’s good feelings from outside oneself.

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» Empty Nest Syndrome
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Paula’s last child had just gone off to college and Paula was struggling with a deep inner emptiness.

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» Fight, Flight, or Loving Action
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/12/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Fight or flight - our automatic response to danger.

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» Family Ties – When to Let Go
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

Ruth consulted with me because she was confused about what to do regarding her mother, her brother, and her son.

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» What Is A Boundary?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

My clients often explain to me how they set a boundary.

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» Is It Okay to Spoil Your Kids?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Parenting | Rating:

None of us want “spoiled” kids - kids who are bratty, self-centered, demanding, inconsiderate. So, what spoils children and what doesn’t?

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» Keeping Love Alive
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

The concept of what it takes to keep love alive is really quite simple, but not so easy to do.

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» The Poison of Resentment
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Resentment and blame are poisons to the soul.

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» The Legacy of Sexual Abuse
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Miscellaneous | Unrated

If a child was violently abused, the physical pain may have been so intense as to cause the person to not be able to function in a normal way sexually as an adult.

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» Love, Food, and Kids
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Parenting | Unrated

When I had children, I wanted them to be healthy, so I made sure that I had only healthy food in the house.

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» Addiction to Talking
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

Non-stop talking is about using others for attention and approval because of not giving oneself enough attention and approval.

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» More Important Than Love
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

As I got to know Angie and Richard, it became apparent to me that they were caught in a control-resist system.

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» What Kind of Role Model Are You?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/11/2006 | Parenting | Unrated

Are you being the person you want your children to be?

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» Is This the Right Person for Me?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

People who feel insecure and alone are likely to look for someone who will fill the inner emptiness and give them the love they are seeking.

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» Is This Love or Emotional Dependency?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

Falling in love can come from two different inner states.

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» Selfishness Versus Self-Responsibility
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

One of the last things any of us want to be called is “selfish.”

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» Should I End This Relationship?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

Leaving a relationship before knowing what the real problem is, is generally a waste of time.

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» Loving Your Spouse When Your Spouse is Not Loving You
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

Marlo and Jack have been married for twelve years and have two young children.

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» Subtle Addictions
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Recovery Addiction | Rating:

Many people are aware of the fact that addictions are used to avoid pain, and most of us are aware of the common addictions...

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» Telling the Truth… or Not
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

Deciding whether or not we choose to speak our truth needs to come from our own honesty with ourselves about why we are speaking the truth.

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» Relationships: Too Easy To Leave
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

Katheryn and Mathew, both in their 50’s, have been together for two years.

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» Food, Anxiety and Depression
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Depression | Rating:

In our current society, there are many factors that can cause or contribute to anxiety and depression.

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» The Importance of Laughter and Tears
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Imagine how a child would feel if you put him into a box and told him he could never laugh or cry.

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» Getting Unstuck from Procrastination
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/10/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

Sherry consulted with me because things had finally reached a point where her life was actually breaking down from her procrastination.

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» What Really Creates Emotional Intimacy
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/9/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

Think back to a time when you felt really close and connected with someone - a time when you felt emotionally intimate with this person.

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» What Fills Inner Emptiness?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/9/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Samantha is a very giving person. She gives to her family and her friends.

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» Fear of Engulfment
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/9/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Roger has a deep fear of engulfment. As soon as someone wants something from him, his terror of losing himself is activated and he automatically resists.

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» Relationship Deal-Breakers
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/9/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

Most divorces and breakups are the result of one or both partner’s unwillingness to learn from the conflicts that exist in all primary relationships.

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» Date Lying
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/9/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

Well, being a woman, I’m not as aware of how much women lie on dates as I am of how much men lie on dates.

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» Healthy Grief, Unhealthy Grief
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/9/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

We all know that it is in one’s highest good to grieve the loss of a relationship.

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» The Fear of Expressing Anger
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/9/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

There is much to learn from anger, yet many people are afraid of this feeling because they don’t know how to express anger in ways that are helpful rather than harmful.

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» Being Right or Being Loving
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/9/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

Mandy and Evan consulted with me for couple’s counseling because they were always bickering.

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» Managing Loneliness
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

Certainly traumatic and tragic events such as loss of loved ones, financial loss, and health issues are extremely challenging.

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» How Do You Know When You Are In Love?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

Ruby and Jim had been dating for 11 months and were considering marriage.

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» Parents, Kids And Time Alone
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Parenting | Unrated

The truth is that children grow up far healthier emotionally when their parents are happy and fulfilled, even if it means that their parents spend less time with them.

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» Commitment Phobia: Are You Commitment Phobic?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Phobias | Rating:

Commitment phobia has its roots in the belief that when we love someone, we are responsible for their feelings rather than for our own.

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» I’m So In Love, So Why Am I Depressed?
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

I’ve waited so long for love to come into my life, yet now that it’s here, I’m depressed.

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» Men, Women, and Sex
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Relationships | Unrated

During my many years of counseling couples, I have frequently worked with the sexual problems that often occur in committed relationships.

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» The Purpose Of Shame
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Rating:

Many people on a healing path have found it extremely challenging to heal their shame.

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» Beyond Fear And Addiction
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Self Improvement Motivation | Unrated

Much of the fear in our lives is based on false evidence.

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» Fear of Commitment
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Relationships | Rating:

In my counseling work, I often work with clients who have a deep fear of commitment.

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» Recovery From Addictions
By Margaret Paul | Published 07/8/2006 | Recovery Addiction | Unrated

Just about everyone in our society is addicted to something.

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