Nightclubs are the perfect place to pull, in fact they’re pretty much designed specifically for that purpose. The alcohol is flowing, the music is pumping and 50% of the people there are looking to score. However, if you don’t know what you’re doing and if you don’t have the balls to approach girls, then you might as well stay home.

And balls is really what it comes down to (they come in handy for the next part too actually but let’s not get ahead of ourselves…). And by balls I mean cahunas, stones, confidence. A lot of guys tell you that, that it’s just a matter of confidence, but unlike most things guys say this one is actually true.

The thing about confidence is that a lot of girls don’t have it. It’s the weirdest thing but while you may think that you’ve got nothing to offer the girl you’re chatting up, she’s probably trying to figure out which of her friends it is that you’re really after. All you have to do is talk to one of your female friends for a few hours and you’ll quickly learn how many insecurities girls have. Whether it’s the fault of the media, society or some chemical different in our brains ask yourself: have you ever worried that your bum looks to big in your jeans? Thought not.

Maybe you’re a smelly, hairy, weedy little man; you have every reason not to be confident. The good news is she’s a gorgeous 6’ platinum blonde and she probably thinks you’re the better looking one. That’s why guys don’t need to be good looking to score a hot chick and armed with that piece of advice you can approach any woman without trepidation. If you do it in the right way and appear confident you’ll escape with your dignity intact even if you don’t succeed (and you’ll probably get some attention from a few of her friends).

If you’re anything like me however you still may not want to approach a girl for fear of appearing sexist or arrogant or presumptuous. A myriad of excuses will likely fill your head. Luckily you needn’t necessarily make your intentions known to start with. You don’t have to ask her out or try and suck her face off – just start chatting to her about anything that pops into your head. You can even pretend you mistook her for something else, anything to open up the channels of communication. Enjoy the moment and chat to her as though she was anyone else, imagine you’re at a party and she’s a friend of a friend. Come on, why else would you be over here when you’re mates are having such a good time jumping up and down in a circle? If the conversation is stilted then she’s not interested and it wasn’t meant to be, however if the conversation starts flowing you’re good to go and chances are she’s interested. And remember, even if you think she’s probably just being friendly – she’s probably thinking exactly the same thing about you. Grab your balls and talk to her!

Mack LeMouse

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