So you read part one, you went out and you approached a girl with your new found balls (not literally hopefully). She seemed pretty receptive but you weren’t sure if she was just being friendly, you got nervous and the conversation ran out. Either that or she got bored of waiting for you to make a move/insecure about why you weren’t making a move and made an excuse to leave.

Don’t feel downhearted. Trust me, I’m no better myself. I’ve learned all this from my failures, I’ve had so many I know exactly what not to do. Luckily that helped me pave the way for doing it right and armed with that knowledge I’ve had a very good two years in terms of romance. So here’s what to do next.

Now that the girl is talking to you, chances are she’s interested. However you’re probably fretting that you’re going to ruin a good thing or don’t want to come across as needy if she’s just being friendly. So what you need to do is make your intentions known without embarrassing yourself.

Firstly, if the girl is in a group (chances are she will be unless she’s some kind of loner) then you should ensure to address the whole group rather than just the girl you’re interested in. In particular you should talk to her less good looking friends. There are two reasons for this: firstly, it will bring out your chosen one’s competitive streak as she tries to prove she’s more attractive than her friend (especially effective if the friend is clearly the worse looking); and secondly because it will make you look like less of a sleaze bag/less shallow. Plus if you can show you can get on with a group of people you will seem more attractive than if you shyly drag her away to the corner.

Now to show the girl you like that she’s the one you’re here for, here’s one move I use myself while talking to girls or even on the dance floor. Simply hold their gaze for a second then look them down their body to their feet and back up to their eyes. It should be done quickly and you should have an expression that conveys that you like what you see. The reason this is successful is because it’s obvious in telling her you like her but at the same time if she’s not interested she can just ignore it – you can still bounce back!

So maybe that one is just a little gimmick. If the conversation is really going well then what you really need to do is to offer her drink. Once you buy a girl a drink she’ll definitely know you’re keen and it’s also the perfect excuse to take her away from her friends to the bar. When you ask her place your hand on the small of her back as this is another good way to subtly show your intentions and also acts as a little ‘taster’ of what being intimate with you might be like. If she accepts the drink it’s also a good sign that she’s interested too.

Now escort her to the bar and ask her what she wants, if wants you to choose then try to appear confident in your decision and order something like a Malibu and lemonade or an Archers and Coke - whichever you prefer really, hopefully you’ll be tasting it later!

Mack LeMouse

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