Giving a sensual massage is a great way to show your partner you love them and better yet, it means you’ll probably get one back. Additionally it can be a great way to satisfy your partner if it’s her time of the month and then you might get something even better back...

If you’ve ever received a professional massage then you’ll know how nice it can feel to have your aches and pains rubbed out so you can understand how it’s a great gift if you want to make a friend for life. They say all the best gifts are free and while that’s not strictly true (can you get PS3s for free? Thought not…) this is certainly not one to be sniffed at!

The problem is that if you get it wrong you can actually do more harm than good, or just bore her out of your mind. Here are some tips then to make the experience as blissful as possible.

Firstly a set time limit can be nice as it helps the person on the receiving end to relax rather than constantly second guessing when it’s going to end. Thirty to forty minutes is probably sufficient for maximum relaxation without giving yourself a bad back in the process.

Another way to ramp up the pleasure-o-metre is to use massage oils. You can get specially made scented oils from shops such as Anne Summers or Naked Nutrition, however they’re quite expensive for what they are baring in mind that baby oil can do essentially the same thing. Plus baby oil can go in naughty places without stinging…

If you’re not afraid to get called a pussy you can buy a warming facial cream too and give her a facial. Yes it’s a bit gay but at the same time it feels great, so don’t let your pride get in the way.

Finally you’ll want to ensure the environment is optimum – set dim relaxing lighting and put on some soothing music (new age, classical or something like Enya will work well). You also want to make sure it’s warm enough in the room as if it’s chilly it can be unpleasant – especially if you’re using oils as they’ll start stealing body heat.

Now set the timer and once you start the massage you should be perched on your girlfriends back with her on her front (get her a pillow for her head), sitting bum to bum but kneeling so that your knees are by her sides. If you’re too heavy though or find the position uncomfortable yourself then you can sit or stand next to her and work from there. From these positions you can then massage the shoulders, back, legs, hands, arms and anything else, though you may need to change position to work the front.

So that’s the basics of setting up a good massage. From here you’re ready to take her to pleasure town and in the next part I’ll outline some basic ways you can do this.