When you find yourself in situation in life where you are constantly being trampled upon, your feelings being hurt by others and your plans and wishes are not fulfilled cause somebody else is holding you back cause of some personal profit for them, you might be suffering from low self-esteem.

This basically means that you are not strong enough to insert yourself on the agenda of others, and people have a way of noticing this and using it in to their own advantage. Every time you try to say something you simply freeze up and nothing comes out of your mouth. Remember of all those movies where some average Joe is being used to do all the work only for someone else to reap the credits or when someone works hard to bring the food on the table but only to have a ungrateful partner who preaches about how things are not better, the way that others (mostly richer people) have. You probably do remember and some might find yourself in that role, well that is a role of a person with low self-esteem. Consequences of this kind of long term state can be very dangerous. A person can simply snap and unleash it's rage on everyone that is near and possibly hurt them, so resolving this problem is a necessity for you and for the people around you.

So bottling up everything inside you and letting everyone stomp all over you without you saying anything is not good, but what can you do? Find out what you like to do in life, what you do best and do that instead of what you do now, that way a feeling of happiness and content will emerge, which means that you are on the road to recovery. Don't just stop there, you can also start helping others, but not in a way that they boss you around. You should help people on your own terms, that way you and the person you are helping are both winning. When you do all that you will know yourself more and then you can tell everyone how you feel, and don't choke, practice at home and when the right time comes scream from the bottom of your lung's. When you let everyone know how you feel you will feel better, like you have more control over things in life, which is true, cause you are. That control will give you more self-esteem and you will be a better improved human being after that.

You improving your self-esteem can be better for not just you but also for your family and friends cause they will enjoy more in your company, now that you are not closed of inside you, and living in your own little world. It's a win-win situation for everyone.

Kyle Oliart

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