Now that your little bundle of joy has started with school, you may be thinking of adding another member to your family or you may have already decided that you do not want another kid ever again. Babies are adorable but their arrival can change our lives and priorities forever. Some parents may adapt to the change easily while others have a tough time with sleepless nights and screaming babies. Not to mention, the care and attention of a new baby demands, can affect a marriage too. All these factors play an important role in whether or not a couple feels ready for another child.

One of the first things to consider before deciding to have another child is your health. Pregnancy and childbirth takes its toll on the body and you need time to recover before another pregnancy. It is recommended that women space their pregnancies 18 to 59 months apart.

Another point to be considered is the age of the mother. Older women are at higher risk of delivering pre term babies and babies with birth defects. It is best to complete your family by the age of 30 or 35. If you are a stay at home mom who wishes to restore her career, you may like to complete your family before re-entering the work force.

Finance is another thing to consider before adding another member to your family. A new baby is expensive. You have to consider the cost of everything from diapers to college. You may have to arrange for day care when you go for work, you may have to buy a bigger home or a bigger car to accommodate your expanding family. If you are in dire financial situations, you might want to wait till things get better before you have another baby. On the other hand, if you are prepared to deal with the expenses, then go ahead and have that much desired baby.

Are you mentally prepared to handle another baby? Caring for a new baby is stressful and involves a lot of responsibility. If you are already having a tough time dealing with your children, you may want to think before having another child. A new baby can also change the lifestyle and routine that you have established for your family. For instance, you may have to quit working or you may not be able to help your older children with their school work like you do now. Moreover, the arrival of a baby can change your relationship with your spouse. You may not be able to spend much time together. Tempers flare when stress sets in and that in turn puts a strain on relationships. If you are sure that you and your spouse share a solid relationship and can work around the stress and responsibility of a new baby, then it is fine to think about having another kid.

Besides your spouse, also make sure that the other children in the family are ready for another baby. The arrival of a new baby sparks jealousy and insecurity in older children. But that is no reason to put off having another child. Having a sibling teaches children to love and share.

If you feel emotionally, financially and physically prepared for another baby, there is nothing to stop you from planning for one. Who wouldn’t love to have a wonderful, warm baby in their arms? Their sweet smell and their smiles are enough to make up for any sacrifice that you may have to make on the way.

Jason Ladock

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