Whether you’re pulling in a club or bringing to a close a successful first date, a good kiss can either seal the deal or ruin your chances in an instant. Multiple surveys have shown that many women will instantly decide to reject your future advances based on a bad first kiss which is why it’s vital that you get it right.

It’s probably quite embarrassing reading an article on this basic skill, but I won’t judge you. It’s a difficult thing to perform and the amount of pressure really doesn’t help. In fact I salute you, for swallowing your pride and reading a guide on tips on kissing, how to do it properly.

First of all you have to build up to the kiss. If this is indeed a first kiss then you need to be fairly sure that your tongue is welcome in her mouth or it’s just going to lead to embarrassment for everybody. Move in closer then and if she doesn’t move away you know you’re in with a chance. If you’re on a couch the old arm round the back move works nicely, especially if you then start gently rubbing her arm or leg. If she returns the gesture you can work this up to a fever pitch then begin the snogging. If you’re dancing together then try resting your forehead on hers – this is a recognised pre-snogging position. It’s also polite to make sure you don’t taste foul, so if you’ve been drinking make it something neutral or that she’ll like (sipping her drink first will save you the worry) and if you’re a smoker make sure you’ve had some gum or something before the kiss.

Now you may have to do nothing from this point as she may do the work for you. In the past I used to think that a successful snog ‘just happened’, but in reality it was just that the girl I was with was getting impatient and made the move herself. Duh. If it doesn’t ‘just happen’ though, you’ll need to build up the courage to move in for the kill yourself.

First of all, tilt your head to the right and she should do the same. Going right is an accepted social norm and if you go left you’ll probably end up simply head butting her and sparking her out. She may or may not be impressed by the strength of your forehead, but chances are if she’s bleeding from the skull you’ve killed the mood.

Assuming you both go the right way you should now be in a lip lock. At first you want to start gently with a simply peck on the lips, though at the same time you’ll want it to be quite firm – you need to commit to the move! This will show you’re keen and at the same time a limp/brief kiss is the annoying equivalent to a lame wet-fish handshake. So commit, and give it about five seconds before pulling away. You may also want to pull her into the kiss, as your arms should be in some way wrapped around her. From here it’s a simple matter of upping the steaks and the tempo.

Mack LeMouse

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