Putting your hands on the girls face can be a great way to make it more intimate and especially if you couple it with some romantic ‘gazing’. Stroke her cheeks with your thumbs, or just stroke one cheek with a single hand. Alternatively, holding both cheeks and applying slight pressure on either side can be incredibly pleasant and relaxing.

You might also take this opportunity to kiss other parts of her face. Where you kiss sends different signals – on the forehead is quite protective (slightly like a baptism though too), on the nose is playful, the cheek is sweet (and feels very nice if you do it firmly) and the chin/under the mouth is quite sexy.

You can also ‘travel’ around the girls face, kissing along the cheek and back to the mouth which is great as a tease and as a break from all the mouth action (your jaw and tongue might be starting to get tired by now!). If you want to really heat things up you can travel to her neck – a very sensitive area for many girls (though some I know hate having their neck touched so be careful at first) and sexy in a Count Dracula kind of way (especially if you have her against a wall at this point). Another good place is the ears, and nibbling on the lobe or the edge, or licking inside can send shivers down a girl’s spine. This is also a good chance to breath heavily into her ear, or to whisper sweet nothings (if the music is loud though for heaven sakes don’t shout into it). As previously mentioned, sucking on one lip is also quite a good move.

A warning against the lip sucking though – don’t do it too much and certainly don’t do it too hard. I’ve kissed girls who I literally thought were going to suck my mouth off. You lip has far more nerve endings than most of the rest of your body, so a hicky on your mouth is quite a painful and unpleasant idea. Weirdly though a lot of people do this though and I think it comes down to trying to hard. While it’s good to be passionate and forceful you don’t want to come across as over-keen, desperate and deranged (and unless you’re 13 there’s no excuse for clashing teeth either). So calm down!

In fact that’s good advice generally. Though I’ve given you some ideas to keep things fresh, in reality the more you think about the kiss the less you’ll be in the moment. While I’ve banged on about how important a good kiss is, remember that it’s a 50/50 thing – if the kiss doesn’t go well it’s her fault too. Rather than thinking of yourself as a bad kisser, realise that you just probably haven’t found your match yet. Don’t just worry about your performance but get critical of hers too (the same goes for dancing and sex – it should be a two way thing). When you meet a girl who kisses well and hits all your buttons, then chances are you’ve found your match and she’s enjoying it too.

Mack LeMouse

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