Okay, I’m not exactly the master of this sort of thing, I’ve more collected notes and am now presenting them neatly for your information. I’ve tried a few of these tactics in the past however and they do generally seem pretty effective. Mostly though, I’ve just selected the ones that make sense to me. I’ve also added some of my psychological knowledge into the mix so you can mess with their heads. Enjoy!

The secret to flirting is to draw in the victim with out them realising it. Get slowly more intimate and personal through body language and sneaky tactics. Think of it as a battle of wits or a game of chess where the lady you’re after is the enemy. Remember: all’s fair in love and war! This approach should work especially well with people you’ve already established a rapport with - act normally like they’re a friend, then jump this on them leaving them confused and wanting more. If none of the suggested flirting tactics do not have the desired effect though you’ll have done nothing offensive that they can accuse you of on a later date.

‘Hey! I’m not available ok!’

‘Eh? What I do?’

‘You were… like… leaning in… and… stuff…’

‘Riiiight…’

See, you don’t loose face! Paramount. The ideal situation would also be on a one-to-one basis, dim lights and music. Of course it’s more likely you’ll be in a work/school place, so to compensate try to ‘shut out’ the rest of the world and make your own music. (Wow that’s cheesy…)

Body Language:

First off you have to appear approachable - be alone (or with just one or two friends) and don’t have your arms crossed, that sends out the message ‘Leave me alone!’ apparently. Apparently it’s also good to fiddle but not fidget, you need a rhythmic movement such as stroking your leg (that’s a bit weird though; try something that doesn‘t look like you‘re feeling yourself up). As I said the idea is that they don’t realise until later on that it was pretty sensual, make it subtle so it’ll just change the mood and influence them subconsciously.

A good way of attracting attention is to sustain eye contact for a bit too long then break it. Make sure you’re not staring though. Then, once you’re actually making conversation lean in slightly - this is part of the ‘drawing in technique’ - you will not only appear very interested in what she has to say but she will naturally be impelled to lean in also. The closer you get the more intimate it becomes.

Once you’re all up in her grill, breath quite heavily - but not like you’re Darth Vader with asthma, and don’t spit. One very important point is to keep smiling. Touching should be kept that to a minimum if you’re not too sure how they‘ll take it as it can be a bit obvious and has potential to blow up in your face. Also, most situations do not really allow for it. I guess you can get away with a tap on the shoulder to get attention, though this can probably be seen as annoying.

How do you know if a girl was looking at you? Easy. Turn and look out the window, or check your watch, if she does the same, she must have been watching you. Clever huh? I thought of that one. If you are accused of staring then say, ‘you must have been looking at me to see me looking at you’. Genius.

Mack LeMouse

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