So your friend has set up a date for you. Your friend feels that this person is the perfect match for you but you have butterflies in your tummy. This scene may be familiar to anyone who has gone on a blind date. While many blind dates have ended in permanent and loving relationships, several others have ended in a disaster. Here are few things to keep in mind while going on a blind date.

• Remember, this date was set up for you by your friends or someone you know. Your date does not need to be the best match for you even though your friends feel that he is. So, be causal and do not expect too much from the relationship. You don’t even know who you will be dating with.

• Let the first date be short and sweet. Agree to meet your date over a coffee or during lunch break. This way, you will be able to make a quick exit if you feel that the other person is not your type. If you like the person, you can agree to meet later.

• A blind date means that you are going out with someone you really don’t know. Even though your friends set up the date, it is wise to be cautious. Arrange to have friends check on you over the phone. If possible, station a friend to "run into" you at some point in the date so that they know you are alright.

• Don’t reveal too many details about yourself such as your address or home telephone number.

• Keep an escape route open. For instance, you can tell your date at the beginning that you have a doctor’s appointment or something of the sort. That way, you can use it as excuse to leave. If the date is going well, just tell that you can cancel the appointment or have it rescheduled.

• Be willing to understand and appreciate the other person for all that he is. Talk to him about his likes and dislikes, hobbies and passions. Show him that you are interested in getting to know him.

• It will help if you haven’t conjured up an image of your date beforehand. Your friends may have described your date as handsome and smart but he may be the opposite. The concept of beauty and personality vary from person to person, so be prepared to accept that your date may not be what you had in mind. However, this should not stop you from keeping an open mind and getting to know him.

• Don’t try to pretend that you are someone you are not. Just be yourself. Remember, your date is here because he wants to get to know you and not the actor in you. If casual dressing is your style, don’t go in for cocktail dresses and high heels. Let your date know what you are all about. If he likes you, it is well and fine, If he doesn’t, the loss is all his.

• Trust your instincts. Sometimes you may have that gut feeling that something just isn’t right. You may feel that the other person is not trustworthy or is rude and brash. This comes across through a person’s words and deeds so keep your eyes open for such warning signs.

• Saying good bye at the end of the first date is awkward even if partners are familiar with each other, so there is no need to mention that saying good bye at the end of a blind date can be very awkward. If you enjoyed the date, let your partner know. Hint that you would like to spend more time with him or her and take it from there. On the other hand if the date was a disaster, don’t agree to keep in touch or meet later even if your partner suggests doing so.

Jonathan Pitts

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