If you are dating someone for the first time, chances are you will be tensed and edgy. You really don’t know what to expect or whether this person will be compatible with you. In such a situation, cozy and romantic settings may make you feel uncomfortable. This is perfectly natural. Before going for a full blown date with someone new, why not take some time to get to know the person? What better way to do this than over a cup of coffee?

Coffee dates are kind of like mini dates. You get to meet your date, spend time with them and you have the luxury of an escape route if you feel that this date is not working out. Here are few things to keep in mind while dating over coffee.

• Coffee shops have a casual relaxed ambience that makes you and your date feel relaxed and comfortable. This is the best place to meet and get to know a new person. So, choose a coffee shop that is not too dull or stuffy. Go someplace with a warm welcoming ambience. Add to that the smell of freshly brewed coffee and you have a great setting for a first meeting.

• Be punctual. Your partner expects to meet you at the coffee shop at the decided time so don’t keep him or her waiting. Arrive a few minutes early and choose a good place to sit. If you wish, you can even order a mug of coffee for yourself.

• When your date arrives, guide them to your table and let them order what they wish. The purpose of the coffee date is to get to know each other so keep conversation going. Find out about your partners likes, dislikes, passions and hobbies. Ask questions and give answers. Try your best to be attentive to what your partner has to say.

• The best part of coffee dates is that they are short. You can take a break from your office hours and meet your date. It is a great way to unwind and also a great excuse to end the date. Keep in mind that the date is bound to be short and don’t expect too much. You or your partner will want to return to work or other appointments. If you really like each other, there will be time for longer dates later.

• Ending a coffee date does not need to be awkward. Just finish your coffee and casually say good bye. Let the experience help you decide whether or not you wish to continue seeing that person.

• If you liked your partner, let them know how much you enjoyed their company and express your interest to meet again. You can exchange phone numbers or e-mail address. If you didn’t like your date, be courteous and say good bye. If you wish, you can send an e-mail thanking them for their company but don’t send anything that suggests you wish to see them again.

• Remember that coffee dates are only causal meetings and not exactly an official date so; there should be issues about who picks up the tab. Let each person pay their own bill. Don’t expect your partner to pay your bill too.

• Coffee dates are not only for those who are dating for the first time. Even seasoned lovers and married couples can meet over coffee. For instance, both husband and wife can take a break from work and meet up over coffee. This is a great way to keep communication and romance from draining away.

Jonathan Pitts

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