No one enjoys being dumped. It is much easier to walk out of a relationship than being dumped. The heartache and frustration of being dumped is bound to wreck havoc with your emotions and your social life. You will need the support of friends and family to get over the pain of being dumped by someone you held so special. Here are a few tips on how to survive getting dumped.

• Acknowledge that you are hurt. A broken relationship is sure to bring heartache especially if you are at the receiving end. There is no use pretending that you are bubbling over with joy.

• It is easy to rash decisions while you are hurt so keep major decisions for later. For instance, if you and your partner worked together, you may be tempted to quit the job to avoid having to face him or her. Wait till you cool down and if you still feel that it is impossible to continue working together, look for another job.

• Accept that the relationship is over and done with. Your ex walked out on you because he or she felt very strongly that the relationship won’t work. Don’t set out to convince them and win them back. If someone you cared about so much feels that the relationship cannot survive, it just may be true.

• Cut off all contacts with your ex. And don’t phone or e-mail him or hang out in places which he went frequently. Don’t even think of remaining friends because it just doesn’t work that way. If you both had common friends or jobs, chances are high that you will run into each other. Remain distant, cool and cordial in such circumstances.

• Remove things which remind you of your times together. Things like photographs and gifts just serve to deepen the hurt and anger that you may be feeling. Get rid of such stuff. This is a step towards clearing your mind.

• Drive away the urge for revenge. Taking the decision to leave may have been tough on your ex too. Empathize with them. Revenge is only going to hurt you both even more.

• Don’t take the blame for the failure of the relationship upon your shoulders. Both partners are equally responsible for the sustenance of a relationship.

• It is likely that your self confidence has taken a beating thanks to your being dumped. You should do all you can to boost your self esteem. Go to a salon and get a stylish hair cut or work out at the gym or buy some stylish clothes for yourself. These work wonders for your confidence.

• Think about what went wrong with the relationship and learn from it. This is sure to be useful when you start a new relationship. Although it may seem impossible to believe, your social life will resurrect and you will venture into new and perhaps better relationships.

• You may wish to put off socializing for a while. It is normal to feel that way. Take a break from the rigors of daily life and go away for a while. Go for a vacation. You can meet new people, visit new places and you will be able to get over the pain of rejection much sooner.

• Seek help from friends. Talk to your close friends about what you are going through. They will help you cope. Go out with your friends. Hanging out at the mall or going for dinner with your friends will take your mind off the hurt of being dumped.

• When you feel ready for it, go ahead and accept the joys that a new relationship brings. The old relationship has become a thing of the past and better things await you so don’t deny yourself.

Jonathan Pitts

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