For some guys, getting a girl is as easy as taking a relaxed breezy walk in a park while for some others, it could be tougher than climbing to the peak of Mount Everest. It completely depends on the confidence, comfort level, character and attitude of the person.

The first tip to attract a girl is to be under the full control of you. Your self confidence plays a huge role in getting a girl to notice you. Do not be terrified, jittery or in hurry. Do not be too blunt while talking as it may embarrass the person. If this is your first meeting, do not jump into having a very personal conversation. The first impression you create sets her comfort level with you. If that is tampered, it may be very difficult to recover. Never give up your self esteem and hold your self image pretty high. Do not fake your intentions on her, nor praise or flatter her too much. Be sincere in your approach as this kind of maturity would be highly appreciated.

The second and the most important tip is to show your disinterest in her to build her curiosity in you, and then for her to become interested. It is very important to showcase a balance in this case, as overdoing this may insult her and push her away from you. Very soon, you would see that she starts ignoring you or becomes uncomfortable in your presence. Show enough interest in the beginning. Do not ignore her but act normally. This would make her think of you a lot.

The third factor for getting girls attracted to you is to make her feel good. Express your intentions about how special you feel about her and how lucky you feel when she is next to you. This would make her feel very special and she would die to be with you always. However, girls can really get sensitive if your flowery are not true and she later finds out.

The fourth important point is to note that when you approach a girl and her first answer is a ‘no’, it may not be really true. Some girls may feel too overwhelmed when a guy approaches them and they may not know what to say. Once they say a ‘no’, do not pester them or insist on your interest in them. Ask her to consider once more when she is alone and get back to you later. This would still leave your chances open.

Maintain your eye contact when you talk to her. This will emphasize your feelings and interest on her. Take control of any situation or conversation in your stride. She would appreciate your self-confidence highly. If you are a person who can add a punch of humour, she would love it. Girls love naughty guys but may not encourage sheepish or intimate behaviour on the first go.

Girls love surprises. A bouquet of flowers on her door step and a box of her favourite chocolates with a personalized note would make her look forward to talking to you or meeting you. Gracefully ask her out by little gifts and she would feel very special and important in your life.

Jonathan Pitts

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