Flirting with a guy does not just refer to physical involvement with the person. It also includes emotional, psychological and verbal aspects. Though physical intimacy is important, the other aspects are extremely vital to sustain the initial attraction and interest.

In order to flirt with your dream guy, you need to feel comfortable and confident about yourself. Do not feel guilty for who you are, about your appearance, height, physical structure, colour, talents or interests. This is what makes you an individual.

Do not really bother at the back of your mind what people are going to think about you. This does not mean you do not follow social ethics, but you should not refrain expressing your intentions with your guy by your preoccupied notions.

Take the initiative to start a general conversation. Do not be in too much hurry to express your interest. Enjoy slight teasing but do not insult the other person.

Eye contact is especially important when you talk to a guy. You convey a lot without saying much. Remain calm and talk softly and confidently. Let the guy know that you are interested in him and love his company. Express sincere interest to spend time. Do not lie about your personal views on something but avoid getting into arguments or heated discussions. Accept the person's views gracefully.

Naughty gestures can please sportive guys. Call him with funny names. Give a hug when you meet and leave. Wink at him with a naughty smile. Talk to him on subjects that interest to both of you. Do not fake your interests. Be playful but not sheepish.

Start your conversation with a smile. Similarly part with a smile. Say a nice good bye message when you leave to create a lasting impression.

Guys generally like shy girls. Hence, if you are a person with a shy attitude, you have every chance of attracting the guy.

Do not look silly just because you cannot talk with a lot of humour or punch. Do not be terrified or in hurry while you talk.

If you are confident that the guy is also showing some interest in you, you can ponder to even say some slightly sexy and seductive words.

One important step in flirting with a guy is to overcome the fear of rejection. This fear can really bring down your confidence and can make you blabber before the person you are interested in.

Do not decide beforehand how you want to take forward the conversation. Your presence of mind can help you get across your message easily. You would be free of restrictions and also be in a frame of mind to listen to what the other person says.

For flirting, being an introvert or extrovert does not really matter. It is only the attitude that you display to the person concerned that may attract the attention. Once you enter the flirting territory, you are definitely going to feel your natural self. It is just the start which would put you through a lot of questions.

Jonathan Pitts

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