You little baby is now legally an adult and ready to leave his nest and his parents to find his own place in this world. This can be an emotional moment for most parents. Ironically, ever since our babies are born, our every endeavor is to make them independent and ready to face the world. Now that they have attained knowledge, responsibility and maturity and are ready to go out and face the world, we feel hesitant to let them go.

We care for and nurture our children from the time they are born. Our entire life revolves around our children. It requires a lot of time and effort to make the transition from honeymoon days to hectic schedules, diaper changes, PTA meetings, prom nights and many more. When the children leave all of a sudden, all that is left behind is an empty home and plenty of time. The only thing most parents wish is for their children to return home. But this is not practically possible. How can parents deal with the empty nest syndrome?

• Understand that this is the way of the world. It is not only your children who leave home and go in search of financial and emotional independence. You did the same thing too. That is the way it is. Period.

• Leaving the comfort and security of home and wandering into a vast world is not easy on your children either. They may be dealing with feelings of insecurity or fear, and telling them to come home and stay with mom and dad will only tempt them to return without really trying.

• Keep in touch with your children wherever they may be. Call or e-mail regularly. They may be busy with their own lives but they will respond to your efforts to get in touch. Ask them about their lives and activities and update them on the news at home.

• Resolve not to ask them to return when they face tough times. This will defeat the entire purpose of raising your kids to be responsible individuals. Everyone has to face obstacles and problems but running home to mom and dad is not the solution. When your child goes through difficult times, stand by them and offer them the support and encouragement they need.

• Spend time doing things you never had time for. Develop a new hobby or take up art or cooking or some new sport. Spend time with your friends and participate in volunteer work or church activities. This will keep you engaged and prevent boredom from creeping in.

• Bond with your spouse. The perfect time for a second honeymoon is when your children have left home.

• Give yourself a pat on the back for raising your children to be strong, mature and independent.

Jonathan Pitts

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