Having a firm erection is one of the secrets to being great in bed. However big your member is, if it flops around like a wet fish it’s not going to be at all pleasant or impressive when you get down to business. The good news is the firmness of your erection is largely down to your lifestyle, diet and habits meaning anyone can improve their sturdiness and so their sexual performance at the same time.

When you get an erection the reason for this is that your brain is redirecting lots of the blood in your body towards your dick. This then causes it to swell and stiffen appearing larger in size as it does. The amount it will grow will vary depending on the individual (whether you’re a ‘shower’ or a ‘grower’) but the firmness will be down to just how much blood is sent down there and how strong the muscles are in the pelvis – both of which you can improve yourself.

Blood travels around the body through your veins and arteries, meaning that if you want to direct a lot of blood somewhere quickly you’ll need to increase the ease at which it can travel through them. One way to do this is through supplementation that causes ‘vasodilation’ or the enlargement of the veins. This means that not only will the blood be able to rush there more easily, but once it does the veins will be larger inside your dick making it swell up more. Of course that also means your nob’s going to look pretty vainy but I’m sure you can deal with that. One supplement that has this effect is Nitric Oxide, while many others exist on the market. This also has other added bonuses making your muscles look bigger and more ripped while providing you with more energy in the gym. Similarly you can try increasing your circulation other ways such as taking hot and cold showers or using ginkgo biloba extract. You’ll know if its working when you wake up with a raging morning glory...

Increasing testosterone levels will also help your boner as it generally increases arousal and libido (which obviously has other benefits in the bedroom too). This again can be achieved with various supplements such as 6-OXO, ZMA and tribulus terrestris, as well as with vitamins and minerals such as magnesium, zinc and vitamin B6 (which can be found in most multivitamins). You also need to limit your amount of oestrogen which counters the effects of testosterone – to do so avoid tap water (which contains more and more oestrogen thanks to women flushing their junk down the loo) which has been suggested to contribute to the ‘feminisation’ of society, and eat lots of cabage – which contains oestrogen combating chemicals. You can also increase your testosterone and a lot of other things through exercise and believe it or not, through watching porn. Studies have shown that watching porn actually raises testosterone and while this is very short term, over time it will lead to greater production generally in the long run and will also increase your sex drive and libido. So, masturbation makes you better in bed – now there’s a prescription you can follow!

You may or may not know however that every time you get an erection it varies in how firm it is and how long. This correlates with many other factors such as how aroused you are, how energetic you are and how attractive the girl (or fella... ) opposite you is. This demonstrates the largely psychological element of getting a firmer erection so if you want to be at full power you need to be as ‘into’ the moment as possible and with as high energy levels as possible too. Stress and tiredness can greatly affect how impressive your boner gets and if you experience them to a high enough degree they can even cause erectile dysfunction. To combat this problem then you need to make sure you get a good night’s sleep and that you’re high on energy. At the same time, try to let go of any stressors in your life and really focus on the matter in hand (perhaps literally).

The other way to get a rock hard erection is to train the pelvic muscles and prostate that hold it upright. If you don’t you’ll end up with a stiff stiffy, but one that will just hang limply – like a club attached to a piece of string. There are many ways you can do this, the most simple being to simply tense the muscles in that area which should be visible as your penis lifts slightly each time you do. Simply doing this occasionally will strengthen those muscles allowing you to hold it more upright and to support it more during that vital time. The way it raises means that some slightly unusual guys have made a sport out of attaching weights to it and lifting greater and greater amounts. While this probably leads to pretty epic boners I can’t really advise you do the same… Other ways to train your muscles in this area are to stop and hold your pee while you urinate (also allowing you to move around urinals). Again though, obviously practice, as in regularly getting a boner, will also strengthen the muscles involved in getting one. It’s fairly common sense but also pretty good news.

Of course if you’re really at your wit’s end you can try Viagra or other drugs designed specifically for the bedroom. This is rather drastic though as a fairly expensive solution and one that’s not great for your street cred (really don’t tell your friends). If you’re in generally good health, and getting lots of love (self love or otherwise) you really shouldn’t worry too much about the firmness of your erection – most people make up for their short comings (sometimes literally) in one department or other. If you’re not happy, try the above suggestions, and if it’s still more of a semi than a full blown raging boner, then consult your doctor for the most embarrassing conversation of your life.

Mack LeMouse

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