Lasting longer in the sack is something that’s high on most guys’ agendas. No one wants to be a two minute wonder and cumming early is just an embarrassing and messy occasion for everyone involved. Fortunately though, like most things, your durability in the bedroom is something that can be improved by training or just by learning a few tricks.

The most famous method that most guys use is to think of something else. Either something bland and boring, or something downright unpleasant in the serious occasions. I personally recommend against the latter, as the last thing you want to be doing is squirting while thinking of your grandma and you’re really going to take yourself out of the moment too. Thinking about something bland isn’t exactly great for being in the moment either (for some reason I always think ‘trees’ which kind of works…) but you can use it intermittently when the going gets a bit too hot.

Another thing you can use intermittently is to pull out and start using your hands for a change. Unless you’re building her up to a climax at this point then she’ll probably enjoy the change of pace and be impressed by your willingness. As you’re probably aware most women actually prefer that anyway… (just don’t whatever you do stop at that moment). A less extreme thing to do is to simply slow down the pace for a bit which might prove to tease her slightly while you get a slight break (again though don’t do it just as she’s getting in to the moment…).

Training too will help though and by strengthening your prostate you can improve your ability to hold in your love juice. The best way to do this is to hold your piss when you urinate, maybe for ten seconds before starting again, as this will train the prostate in the ability to hold other things. Another simple one to use is to try wanking and constantly bringing yourself to the brink before stopping – again this will train the same area while at the same time being rather fun and will also increase the intensity of your eventual orgasm.

You can also numb the sensitivity of your penis head in various ways which will in turn make the sex last longer but at the same time it’ll again take a lot of the enjoyment out of the whole proceeding which kind of seems to make the whole thing rather pointless. One way to numb the sensitivity of your penis is to wear a thick condom which will take away much of the sensation for you. Unfortunately at the same time though it’ll also ruin some of the enjoyment for her and it’ll also take away from some of the intimacy as there’ll literally be a barrier between the two of you. If you want to go more extreme then you could even consider a circumcision which over time will make your penis less sensitive as it spends more time exposed and rubbing against your underwear etc.

Another way to become less sensitive is to have more sex – particularly rough sex, and if you cause friction burn, though it’s very unpleasant, over time it will mean that you can sustain yourself for longer.

You can also desensitise yourself by masturbating just before the big occasion (give it over an hour so you can be fully recovered and enjoy the actual sex properly). This will also mean you’re less horny and have less of a ‘build up’ (sorry) of sperm, both of which will also help you to last longer.

Of course if you’re really horny and able to go non-stop you can always turn this into one long session of sex – have sex and cum, finger her or go down on her for a bit, and then go in again and this time last slightly longer. If you can stand the sensation and sustain the boner you can even just continue having sex immediately after you’ve cum until she’s satisfied too (some of us do have the ability to sustain flag-pole like boners even after we’ve just been satisfied… it’s a blessing and a curse).

And in many ways using one of these latter two methods would be a much better option. It allows you to get into the moment and enjoy yourself and it’ll probably be more satisfying for her too. And even if you can’t satisfy her twice or keep it going, don’t be so keen to make yourself last longer – believe it or not women don’t want to go for hours and can actually start to get bored and tired if you don’t cum. Worst case scenario she’ll be dressed up in her little nurse outfit to try and surprise you only to spend half an hour riding you with no result. Chances are in this scenario she’ll start to wonder if you find her attractive anymore (women are like that) and then you’ll be willing yourself to cum quicker. This can be just as embarrassing as cumming too soon and can put a real strain on the relationship. At least cumming early is flattering and at the same time it means everything’s in working order and in fact… rather healthy.

And the irony is that in these scenarios you probably won’t be able to cum for the life of you, which is just sods law. You see the reason for many problems with timing is expectation and concern – if you’re worried you’re going to blow your load too fast then you probably will, and if you’re worried you won’t… well then you probably won’t. You see there’s a very large psychological element to when you cum, and so really the best way to deal with the whole thing is just to not think about it. Sit back and enjoy the ride, and remember it’s not all about her – you have to enjoy yourself too and she’s probably having all the same concerns (actually she’s a woman, so she’s probably having twice as many).

Mack LeMouse

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