People are usually hesitant to ask a girl out because of the scare of rejection. If you have been seeking out an opportunity to ask a girl out but don’t know how, then here is something that can teach you how to ask a girl out.

The first thing that you should confirm before asking a girl out is whether she is available or not. It is quite possible that the girl you want to ask out is already seeing someone else. Or there might be some family restrictions that would not allow her to date men. Or maybe she is of the studious types. To get to know the possible reasons behind why the girl wouldn’t come out for a date or if she is dating someone already, you need to observe her activities closely. If you have mutual friends, then get to know about her through them or through any close relation that you have who also happens to know the girl.

Observe the girls’ behavior when she sees you. Does she smile at you when she sees you? If you work at the same place or are in the same class does she ask for help? If you get these signs then they are positive. This means that the girl want to know more about you.

The next thing that you need to see is how comfortable is she while talking to you. For example, you can ask her whether she’s been to an eating joint that opened a few days back in your city/town. If she says that she’s been longing to go there but does not have company then it means that she is giving you a positive vibe that both of you can hang around together. Or if you have tickets to a show that you wish to take her to just mention in front of her that you have free passes to it. If she is willing she might hesitate at first but eventually agree to accompany you.

The golden rule is that you should not wait till the day of the event. You should plan your date in advance so that your girl gets enough time to decide what should she wear and if she has anything scheduled for that day, she can work it out before.

Also, always remember never to ask out a girl in a gathering in front of people. There can be two reactions too, she might agree to your proposal but later on she might say a no, and there can also be a possibility that she might ask you to never ask her out again. Another possibility would be that she might just reject your proposal in front of many people.

The best time to ask a girl out is when both of you are alone, so that she gets time to think and then reply. You can call her up or e-mail her. If you use the same transport to work or to go in school then you can ask her privately. But usually girls would like to be asked out in person so it is better that you ask her out when she is in front of you.

It is important that when you ask a girl out you should plan out what you have to say. Rather than fumbling in front of the girl it is better that you be prepared with what and how you have to talk. Also, have a plan for your date like where you have to go and what time. Having everything planned would make it better for you as well as the girl whom you are asking out. So be confident and walk up with a little attitude and ask the girl whether she would go out on a date with you.

Jonathan Pitts

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