Being in a controlling relationship is quite a common thing these days. However, when the same controlling relationship is seen among a couple then it is not considered to be good. In a marriage or a romantic relationship, having the right balance and understanding each other’s needs and requirements is the foremost thing, which is also the key to a healthy relationship.

A couple needs to understand the weak points of their relationship and make use of the good aspects to make the relationship work. The initial few years of a relationship are rosy and even before you would realize one of the partners become dominating, which at times can make the other partner unhappy.

There are different signs of a controlling relationship some of which are mentioned below:

• If you force yourself to do certain things because of his temper then it is the first sign of a controlling relationship. Such people usually have terrifying temper, which can come out even on small issues. The anger can reach a level where it can show who is dominating the house.

• When a person has an intention of taking control in a relationship then he would make it a point to lower your self-esteem or confidence in public by insulting you. At times your partner might term it as this is how they show their affection, but you should realize it in the beginning and beware of the intentions.

• Can you do things apart from what he says in your dates or trips? If not then this is another sign of a controlling relationship. If you are doing the things that he wants you to do, then sorry but you are blindly following a controlling relationship.

• In a controlling relationship it is usually seen that the person who wants to be in control will have fluctuating emotions. One day your partner would be very loving towards you and the next day he might just lose his temper. You would gradually realize that this sort of relation ultimately results in lowering of your self-confidence.

• In a controlling relationship you would always be the one who will be blamed for every error that happens. Your partner would purposefully pick up fights and then blame you for the entire scene and for spoiling their mood. Your partner would even go to an extent of saying that a particular facial expression or a sentence that you uttered spoilt his entire day.

• Your partner taking control of a relationship would keep a constant watch on you every moment. They would keep a track of where you go, what you are doing, who your friends are and where do you hang around with them and more. Making your partner aware of your whereabouts is a good thing but giving explanations for all your actions is not justified.

• In a controlling relationship the person who’s in control would always make the point obvious that you are not good enough for him. And living up to the expectations of such a person can never satisfy him no matter how much you try.

Loving a person does not mean that you surrender to his wishes. A relationship needs space and time. So if you feel you are in a controlling relationship, the best thing is to talk things out with your partner and make him realizes how much you love him and let you live your life on your own terms.