Marriages are based on love, trust, care and respect. If any of these factors is missing in between, then your marriage can seem to be in trouble. Divorces have become common these days because of the lack of compatibility and the factor of trust, which is the most important thing between couples.

How can you say that you are in a troubled marriage? Here are some signs that would make you aware of whether you are in a troubled marriage:

• You are no longer enjoying doing common things. If you and your spouse have lost the zeal to talk to each other about regular life issues or about future plans and problems, which both of you have been facing at your respective ends, then your marriage is going through a troubled phase. If you had fun together doing certain things but you are now either don’t enjoy them doing together or do not wish to do those things, then you are in a troubled marriage.

• The passion in your relationship has decreased. No matter how long you have been together with your spouse but when you are together there is definitely something that would click between the two of you that keeps the passion alive. In case you find that passion missing and observe that your partner is losing interest in your appearance or your whereabouts then there is some problem.

• If you observe that lately your partner has been avoiding you or any communication that you start is going unnoticed or any change that you have made in your appearance or the house is not being taken note of, then your marriage is in trouble.

• If you are too dependent on your spouse for small things, this is set to bring about a misbalance in your relationship. Your partner might feel burdened by your constant dependency and would get irritated at small issues. If you are being too dependent on your partner and off late the response that you get from your partner is not as it usually is, then you are going through a troubled relationship.

• Too much expectation from a relationship can also lead the marriage into troubled waters. If you do not understand what your spouse is going through at a particular moment and still expect him/her to be the same self as he always is, this can lead to conflicts and end the marriage in a troubled situation.

• If you and your spouse have been arguing about petty issues and always look for picking up on each other, then this shows that your marriage is in a bad shape. It is important that you understand what the basic problem is and solve it from the root.

Marriage is a pious institution that should be maintained until one can do it with grace and respect for the other partner. Forgiveness is one thing that a couple should imbibe as a trait when in a relationship.

There is no problem that does not have a solution, the only thing is that you should have the right approach to the problem and look for a solution that would be the best for both of you and your married life.

Jonathan Pitts

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