There’s a lot of pressure on us guys when it comes to bedroom shenanigans. There probably is for women too, but for us guys it’s a whole different story. The thing is, no matter how limp and lifeless a girl is, if she’s hot she can pretty much rest assured that we’ll want another go. For guys however one shoddy performance and there’s no chance of an encore; women are just less horny and harder to impress. More scary is the fact that our equipment could fail us - if a woman doesn’t get wet during sex this is taken as a sign of our failure - that we didn’t get her aroused enough; however if a guy doesn’t get hard that means that he’s a failure and that he’s got no testosterone. On the other hand though, if he enjoys it too much and cums early then he’s branded a child with no self control. If a woman doesn’t come again we’re rubbish and if she cums early… well that’s just great news! Guys always have to make the first move and yet if we make it too early then we’re sleazy, if we make it too late we’re unconfident. In short, life is unfair for men. Why’s it like this? Probably because we guys are better at taking criticism… (don’t repeat that…)

Lucky then that we can fall back on a few tried and tested lovemaking techniques, passed from man to man and generation to generation to ensure we get things at least partially right. The important thing to remember here is not to get too nervous about the whole experience and to think about what you want as well as what she wants - otherwise you’ll be a nervous wreck. Don’t be too concerned about your nob, let that do what it wants, the good news is that most women actually prefer stimulation from the hands and tongue - and these will never fail you. If you cum to early then you can satisfy her with your hand until you’re ready to go again and if you don’t get hard then she can at least get an orgasm out of it and will be far more likely to come back for more (she might even think you’re a generous lover… that’s a very good label to have). The other important thing to remember is that women almost prefer foreplay in terms of how it feels, and for them the highlight of the actual sex is that it’s intimate. Women are very much turned on by touch, thoughts and sounds whereas we men are more turned on by sight.

So what are those lovemaking techniques? Well the first is the foreplay - preheating the oven as it were, which will help make the whole situation go a lot smoother. Start with passionate kissing and stare her in the eye, hold the sides of her face with your hands and then slowly undress her - remember the passion and the intimacy that gets her going and don’t rush anything. When kissing one quick technique is to try sucking on the bottom lip as this is actually linked to the vagina and by sucking here you can cause blood to rush downstairs and set off a reaction.

Remember as you undress her that there are erogenous zones all around her body. Two good ones are the ear lobes - and nibbling the ears or sucking them are great lovemaking techniques - and the sides of the breasts which are also very sensitive (so long as she isn’t too ticklish there). As she gets more turned on she will also raise her pain threshold so a little bit of rough is more acceptable (the operative work here being ‘little’). Try squeezing her buttocks and lightly scratching her back. Of course the most well known form of foreplay at this stage is to suck/play with the nipples. Here it’s urban myth that the right nipple gets women hornier than the left, but really there’s little to suggest this is the case and either or both will work just as well. When you do, start by sucking on the nipples and licking around them (the underside of the boob is a very sensitive are and due to being covered up it rarely gets any stimulation so try licking here too), and flicking them lightly with your tongue.

By this stage her vagina should be starting to get pretty wet which will mean that you can begin stimulating her clit and g-spot. Start with the clit as that’s on the outside and massage it gently or firmly depending on what she prefers - this is found at the top of the vaginal opening under the clitoral hood and will grow with stimulation. As you do this she should start to get as wet as the rainforest which will be enough lubricant to get your fingers inside. Start with one and move it around the inside in a circular motion pressing against the vagina walls and brushing against the clit or g-spot as you do - these are great lovemaking techniques as by experiencing pressure on the sides of the wall a) she’ll feel as though she’s getting penetrated by an incredibly large dick and b) her vaginal entrance will stretch which will enable to get more fingers inside and make penetration easier when you come down to having sex if she’s fairly tight (once you do have your penis inside circular motions still make a great variation and going deeply will also create the illusion of a bigger dick - get her to lift her legs and angle her body to allow deeper penetration).

To get her to orgasm there are two lovemaking techniques you can use - clitoral stimulation or g-spot stimulation. The latter of these is actually the more powerful sensation and is also the easier to bring about. You can stimulate these with either your penis or your fingers, though it’s actually easier with your hand and some women won’t be able to cum from penetration alone. Make sure during sex that your penis rubs against the clitoris by angling it upwards. To stimulate the g-spot however you’ll need to approach from a different angle - pushing upwards and outwards where the belly button was located, as though you were trying to burst out of her belly button like the monster from the Aliens series (don’t tell her this particular metaphor). The only way to reach this area with your penis is by penetrating from behind so that she’s bent over (once you‘ve found it with your fingers it will be much easier to visualise). To find it with the fingers just put both fingers inwards facing up then push upwards. Once you find the g-spot you should notice that the flesh there is slightly rougher in about the size of a small coin. Start off by massaging it gently with your chosen implement, then get firmer as you start to build up her orgasm. To finish the session apply a firm amount of pressure directly onto the g-spot to give her an on-demand orgasm that will leave her quivering all over. To make it even more powerful other lovemaking techniques involve massaging the clit at the same time with your fingers or using a combination of your fingers and tongue.

When she’s experiencing her orgasm you should notice that she tries to push your hand away as the feeling becomes too intense. Do take your hand out but keep rubbing the vagina lips as she comes to help build the power of the orgasm. It will now take a while before she gets wet enough to put your fingers or penis inside again but you can still continue with foreplay and give her clitoral stimulation. Then when she’s ready for round two you can go again with lovemaking techniques that are guaranteed to get her to cum either with your hands or your dick.

Mack LeMouse

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