Women, like a fine wine, only get better with age, and the wealth of experience that they gather, and the general increase in self esteem, confidence and the ability to know what they want and get it. If you’re an older woman yourself then you will know this better than anyone, but that still doesn’t prevent various problems from arising when it comes to dating and life can be more difficult despite your extra experience and confidence.
The Challenges That Women Over 50 Face
So what challenges are these then that you have to face when you are older and where do they come from? Well there are several issues that you should expect to encounter. For one you need to recognise the fact that there are simply fewer men out there that are single and your age as many will be married at this stage. Another problem is that you will now have to date without the prospects of children most likely, and many men that you do meet will likely come with ‘baggage’ in the form of ex wives and children – and you are quite likely to have similar baggage yourself.
At the same time a woman over 50 can sometimes feel less attractive than once before – you might be less physically fit, and your body might be showing the signs of having had children or of beginning the menopause. Finally at over 50 there can be fewer opportunities to meet men and you are less likely to be in situations where you might meet them as you would have been when you first started dating.
The Benefits of Dating as a Woman Over 50
However many of those negatives can be turned on their head and viewed as positives and there are many reasons that it can be very positive to date again at this age and in some ways even easier than it was before. As mentioned you will have new-found confidence and experience, but on top of this there is also the fact that you will likely have better finances – and that complications like children don’t need to get in the way. In many ways you are more free to date whomever you choose and to enjoy a more casual relationship.
Getting Started Dating
So if you’re over 50 and you want to get back in the dating game there are a lot of positive things that can be taken from your situation. It’s simply a matter then of ensuring that the positive features outweigh the negative ones and that you ensure the whole experience is essentially successful.
To achieve this you need to be able to overcome some of the challenges so that they are no longer such obstacles. For instance in order to find single men your own age you might need to try a little harder and that means using things like dating websites, speed dating, bars for elder bachelors and group holidays or classes that are likely to attract the right demographic. Another great option is to go through a friend who might know people who are a suitable match for you – and then you can ask to be casually introduced at a party etc which is a great method that has no pressure and means that the candidate has been ‘vetted’ by your friend.
In terms of feeling older and less attractive a lot of this comes down to will and determination. They say that you are as old as you feel, and it’s probably fair to say that you feel as old as you act and if you refuse to age ‘gracefully’ you can stay more energetic and attractive. This means making sure to engage in lots of exercise to keep your body trim and limber, to eat a healthy diet, to get a lot of sunshine and to take a lot of time in your appearance. How you do your makeup for instance can have a huge impact on how old you look and there are plenty of techniques to subtly hide lines and wrinkles while bringing out your features in a mature by sexy way.