Whether it's a blind date or someone you've had your eye on for a while, the moment is here. You have your first date, and you're understandably nervous. There are a few things you can do to put yourself at ease and make a great first impression.

Tip #1: Dress for Confidence

You don't have to go shopping, but do wear something that looks good on you and that makes you feel confident. Don't wear clothes that you have to tug or pull at; it makes you appear nervous. Avoid lots of dangling jewelry. The last thing you want is dragging your ornate bracelet through your dinner.

Tip #2: Think Easy to Eat

If you're going out, order something that's easy to eat and not very messy. Corn on the cob and other finger foods are out. Also avoid foods that tend to drip, like spaghetti and soups. Since you'll be talking a lot (you hope), also avoid food that require to spend a lot of time chewing. Omelets, mashed potatoes, fish and chicken are good choices.

If you're cooking, then prepare the meal well ahead of time. Better yet, consider ordering the difficult part of the meal and preparing the side dishes yourself. You'll likely be nervous and eager to impress, and both are a recipe for disaster in the kitchen. There will be plenty of chances to impress later.

Tip #3: What to Say

It may sound odd, or even insincere, but think of a few things you can use to jump-start the conversation. What do you know about your date's hobbies and work? How did you meet? Is there something going on in your town right now that would make for good conversation?

Few things are as uncomfortable as spending endless minutes with a near-stranger wondering what to talk about. If you have a few things already planned, you can keep the conversation going smoothly and appear confident and pulled-together.

Tip #4: Location, Location, Location

Try to choose a date location that's familiar to you. You'll be more comfortable in familiar surroundings, and you'll be able to introduce your date to one of your favorite places. Restaurants are good choices as they provide plenty of opportunity to talk and get to know each other. Movies, plays and other entertainment are better left for later in the relationship, when you've had some time to get to know each other already.

For a first date, separate transportation is a must. You might want to cut your evening short, so you'll need a way home that doesn't depend on your date.

Tip #5: Have an Escape Plan

Whether your date is dull or creepy or just not your style, it's a good idea to have an escape route. Plan ahead with a friend to call with an "emergency" if you need an out. You'll be able to cut an uncomfortable evening short without hurting anyone's feelings.

Great tips for the first date, huh? ;)

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