Is Masturbating Bad?

Masturbation, wanking or tossing off as it is variably known, is one of most men’s favourite pastimes. This is because it feels damn good and is kind of exciting as well as cathartic; if you see a woman in the street with particularly nice legs and she bends down for a moment and shoots you a wink while sensually licking her ice-cream cone… you go home and have a wank.

In fact some guys have been known to wank over pictures of girls they know. Or just the thought of something that happened earlier that day. Guy’s can wank over pretty much anything – including porn that we’ve drawn (while on holiday) or sexy pictures in women’s lingerie catalogues. A guy can almost wank in almost any place, as a friend of mine proved while working in an ice-cream stall (how did you think Mr Whippy’s were made?).

All this however comes with a sense of self-loathing. It’s bad enough when it’s legitimate porn, in a sensible place and the first of the day; but when it’s the third time over a text message the girl you fancied sent you… it’s a pretty low moment.

This is partly exacerbated by the position you find yourself in – cock in hand, mopping up your own mess. Still though, there’s no real reason to feel bad about it at all, even when it is a bit of a weird one.

Loads of journalists and papers try and tarnish the good name of jerking off but most of this seems to come from outdated ideals, snobbery and perhaps discomfort with their own sexuality. However modern 2009 is supposed to be, people are still afraid of their own sexuality and it’s frankly a bizarre hangover in our collective psyche from a lot of religious and conservative propaganda.

When you wank you aren’t hurting anyone (unless it’s your fourth go round of the day which will hurt you a bit), all you’re doing is acting on an urge that if suppressed will likely come out in other more destructive ways. Even if you wanking in a weird way, variety is the spice of life and you shouldn’t feel guilty for your own thoughts or urges. Some claim it’s bad because porn can lead to extreme sexual behaviour but that’s nonsense as every guy watches it. Some claim it’s bad because you can become addicted and waste time or stop seeking other forms of gratification, this too is unfounded as almost every enjoyable behaviour can have that affect – everything in moderation. As for not seeking external gratification, I actually enjoy wanking more when I have a girlfriend as I’m generally more interested in sex. Sure it’s a bit narcissistic what with being ‘self love’ but what’s wrong with appreciating yourself for a change?

In fact masturbation is good for you. It can increase testosterone levels leading to larger muscles, better mood and more drive. Additionally it’s good for your prostate and can improve performance in the bedroom as you learn to last longer.

I wank twice a day and I’m proud of it. Once I wanked in a restaurant toilet while waiting for a table. Get over it. If you’re a guy you’ve probably done worse.



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  1. I love wanking Im 14 and I do it every day I find if you dont look at a picture or video it increases your imagination!

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