Success rides on a lot of things, some believe luck or fate, but for the majority of us it is our own efforts that have the power to change our lives. Knowing when to make those efforts and making the right decisions is key to achieving success, but before we can do that we need to gain emotional maturity.
Emotional maturity is the ability to understand the course of life, whatever might happen during it. To have emotional maturity you must be able to live in the present without letting your fears of the future or your experiences in the past cloud your judgment and hinder your choices. How many times do we see people afraid to let go in a new relationship because they’ve been hurt in the past? An emotionally mature person would let go (even if it’s reluctantly) because they know this is an opportunity to find love. They live in the present without being affected by what could happen, or what did happen.
There is a lack of attention towards irrational thought in those who are emotionally mature. Of course some emotionally mature people do develop irrational fears, phobias and anxieties, but they are also able to begin working through them in a sensible way. They know that these fears are irrational and that they will ultimately hinder their success considerably. Emotional maturity helps us to work through our personal problems and downfalls, so that they never stop us achieving success in the future. An emotionally mature person will also not ignore their anxieties but understand that in order to get rid of them they must be tackled. In some ways emotionally mature people also need to be brave to achieve success and freedom from worries.
With all this in mind, it’s impossible to guarantee that pain won’t be caused at some point, even with as much preparation and good quality problem solving as is possible. In these cases the emotionally mature will find an effective way of dealing with their emotions. They won’t ignore them, but try to find a way to learn from them and become stronger. Instead of feeling like a victim or trying to find excuses for something bad that we’ve done emotional maturity allows us to see the events as part of life and the fact that we and the people around us react strongly to them as proof that we are alive. The ability to recognize that nobody can possibly perfect helps us achieve success too, because we no longer expect so much from people and anything that we achieve is always positive. Someone without emotional maturity might be disappointed with an A grade on a test, because they didn’t get the A* they wanted.
Success is all about our personal perception of it. There are many people who are never happy with what they’ve got because they know they can always do better. In this case they miss out on the wonderful thing that is their life, but fail to ever see it. Emotional maturity helps us not to set ourselves up for disappointment, but live in the present and appreciate what we have. Happiness and emotional maturity are the keys to our own perception of success.