Intimate relationships can be wonderful and fulfilling, but they can also go through rocky periods which may seem endless at times. Often, people are left wondering why they ever got together in the first place. It seems all they ever do is argue and disagree on everything from what to eat for dinner, to the type of toilet paper to buy. At times they may ask themselves why they even stay. In some cases they stay for all the wrong reasons. Perhaps the relationship has become a habit, and everyone knows bad habits are hard to break. Maybe they stay for financial reasons; it’s a lot harder out there on your own. But every so often there is that couple who stays together simply because they love each other. For those people, there is hope.
Giving and Receiving Love
It is perfectly normal for any couple, no matter how long they have been together, to go through tough times. In fact, every relationship, whether it is a romantic relationship or a family relationship, can become strained. The most important remedy to any trouble you may be having in your relationship is faith in the love that exists between you. With that being said, you may not always be receptive to receiving that love, or giving it for that matter. It is at times like these that we must try and love even more, no matter how hard it may be. By giving a little love you may just find the reciprocation to be well worth your effort. You must keep in mind that you partner is probably having many of the same feelings you are.
Letting Go of Old Habits
If you have already grown accustomed to a certain style of interaction with your partner, it might be time to reevaluate where you have grown complacent in each other’s company. You will have to try and shed everything you know of your relationship and start from scratch. This won’t be an easy task and will certainly take some time to catch on, but with persistence and diligence, you may be able to turn things around and save your relationship from another dreary year of nothingness, or even worse, total failure. Letting go of old habits is the fist step in keeping the love alive.
Take a Trip Down Memory Lane
The first thing you will want to do is to try and remember how things were when you first met your significant other. Remember how he/she smelled and how excited you were whenever he/she walked in the door. Remember those butterflies you got in your stomach at the simple mention of his/her name. Those things didn’t die, they just faded slowly as you became used to each other. Chances are you are still just as attracted to your lover as you were way back then, however long ago it may have been. The biggest mistake we make in relationships is that we stop trying. We just begin to take the other person for granted, forgetting that his/her needs haven’t changed just because some time has gone by.
Compliment Each Other
Everyone wants to feel beautiful and appreciated. If we fail to show the love and respect our partner so desires, we will begin to lose some of the most important aspects of our relationship. For this reason you might want to try and take a step toward complimenting your partner in some positive way, no matter how small. Make him/her feel loved and wanted. Even something as simple as, “Those earrings look great on you”, or “Your skin looks so nice today.” These may seem like ridiculous things to say at this point in your relationship. Perhaps it has been a long time since you have interacted that way with each other. Now is a good time to try it again, and there is a very good chance your efforts will pay off.
Break the Chains That Bind
If you have fallen into the “I need to know where you are, and what you are doing, every single minute of every day!” trap, back off! This is extremely detrimental to a healthy relationship. No one wants to feel as though they are being held prisoner. Allow your partner some room to breath and grow as an individual. You will feel like a weight has been lifted off your chest when you let go of some of the fear which has kept you feeling that way. Once you begin to show some faith, trust and self confidence, no matter what sort of past baggage there is in the relationship, you will begin to look and feel more attractive. The better you feel about yourself, the more attractive you are to others as well.
Last but certainly not least, always allow for mistakes. Remember that your partner is human and he/she is going to fail you, maybe many times over. This doesn’t mean he/she does not love you, it simply means he/she is acting according to human nature. This does not mean you should become a door mat for your partner, but it does mean you should bend a little. If we hold someone to standards which are too high, there is a very good chance we will be disappointed. Be yourself and allow your partner to do the same. Find little ways to let your partner know that he/she is a very important part of your life and that you want nothing more than to see things work between you. If your relationship is important to you, make it a priority and do what you must to keep it alive to see another day.