While it is easy to blame the particular substance or set of circumstances that led to an accidental overdose, there is often a much bigger picture involved. Long before the drug addict got to the point of no return, chances are there were a number of signs and symptoms that were overlooked and/or ignored by the addict, as well as the addict’s family members and loved ones. Almost everyone has heard horror stories in which someone has lost a loved one as a result of drug abuse. These stories usually involve a series would haves, should haves, if only I had done things differently he/she would still be alive today. Denial is the reason so many addicts remain sick and ultimately wind up dead. There is absolutely nothing funny about denial and it is important for anyone who is dealing with someone who is suffering from drug addiction to understand what denial is and what it can do.
An Addict’s Denial
It is very easy for a drug addict to justify his/her use by minimizing his/her actions or downplaying the issue. Much of the time this is because admitting there is a problem would mean a call to action. And unfortunately in most cases, a drug addict who is in active addiction does not want to stop. He/she suffers from an incapability to admit the truth to him/her self or others. They say the first step in solving a problem is in admitting that one exists in the first place. If an addict is unable to come to terms with the fact that he/she is suffering from addiction and is not able to stop without help, the consequences can be deadly. If drug use or alcohol consumption is causing problems in any area of your life, it may be time to admit that there is a problem that is bigger than you. By taking the first step in admitting that you need help, you may be saving your own life. If you find yourself having to lie to someone you love or even steal from them in order to get drugs or alcohol, it is time to take a very good look at yourself and end your denial.
A Mother’s Denial
How many mothers wish they could turn back the hands of time and save their child after losing him/her to a fatal drug overdose? It is a safe bet to say that the number is immeasurable. They say hindsight is 2020, however if you are looking closely enough you will see things as they are happening. The problem is that many of us do not want to believe the things that are right before our eyes. This is especially true in the case of a mother who is being manipulated by a child who is in the throes of drug addiction. Each time something happens that should be a clear sign that there’s a problem, the child finds a way to manipulate his/her mother and the mother falls for the lies. As a result, the addict is allowed to stay sick and the mother is able to sleep at night. Unfortunately, just because you sweep a problem under the rug or fail to admit it exists does not make it go away. If you are a mother with a child who is clearly suffering from drug addiction problems, you must gather up your strength and realize that if you do not do something you could lose that child.
A Spouse’s Denial
There are a number of people who have husbands or wives who are completely and relentlessly on a downward spiral as a result of drug addiction. When these people turn their heads and look the other way only to save themselves from having to face the truth, they are doing their spouses a major disservice that could lead to life-threatening results. No one wants to admit that the man or woman they love is slipping away from them and so they make excuses like he’ll get better, she’ll get better, things will work themselves out. This is a huge lie; things will not work themselves out, not until you do something. Do not fall into the trap of allowing your significant other to manipulate you and lie to you while killing themselves. Instead, take a stand and insist that you will not be there if he/she does not receive help and stop using. This may mean taking drastic steps, such as throwing him/her out of the house and not allowing his/her return until he/she has gotten clean. This will be very hard but if you stay strong and see this through, there may be a good chance that you can save your husband or wife.
Remember, it is much easier to bury your head in the sand and pretend like there is no problem. However, facing your most difficult problems head on is the only way to truly conquer them. If you were to remove the element of denial from the drug addicts life, you would be paving the road to recovery for that drug addict. Keep that in mind when you’re dealing with your child, husband, wife, brother, sister, mother or father, who is currently sick with the disease of drug addiction.