Why Do Men Just Stop Calling

Most women have been in the situation before where they have been seeing a guy for a while and things seem to be going great and then out of nowhere he simply stops calling. You may have tried to call him and he won’t return your phone calls. This can be extremely frustrating, especially when you are left with no idea as to what the problem is. If this has happened to you there are a few reasons that could be the cause of the sudden cease in contact.

Scared of Commitment

Sometimes men stop calling you because they start getting too close to you emotionally and it scares them. This can be frustrating and sweet at the same time. Men have trouble expressing themselves verbally, so when they start having these feelings they tend to react instead of communicate. Sometimes this reaction is bad, like when he stops calling you because he is scared to commit. This may seem crazy to you as a woman but never the less this is how some men act.

Whether you can fix this type of problem depends greatly on the man and how deep his fear of commitment is. The only option you really have is to talk to him, if he will ever answer your calls, and share your feelings with him and ask him to share his with you. Sometimes this works and sometimes guys just want nothing to do with commitment. If your guy falls into this category and he isn’t budging, it is time to move on to a relationship with a man who is ready for a serious, committed relationship.

The Easy Way Out

The biggest reason why men do not call you back is because they take the easy way out. He doesn’t want to see you anymore but he is too scared to tell you to your face or on the phone. This type of guy is only thinking about his feelings of being scared and not your feelings of being hurt. If this is why your guy has stopped calling you, then just be glad he did because he is certainly not the kind of guy you want to be dating for a long time anyway.

In today’s world with so many methods of communication, there really is no reason for a guy to just stop calling you without even telling you why. They don’t even have to talk to you to send a text message or email but there are those men who are even too rude to contact you in any way. A quick view of any TV reality show with young adults will show you that some men actually think that it is funny not to call a girl back. Trust me; this is not the type of man you would want anyways.

He Thinks You Don’t Like Him

Some men are insecure and they often bring these insecurities into a relationship. If your guy has stopped calling you, it may be because he thinks that you do not like him very much. He may have misinterpreted some of your signs to mean that you do not have feelings for him. In a man’s eyes he is going to end the relationship before you do because he thinks it will prevent him from getting hurt. This can be especially true of any man with insecurity issues.

Here is the problem: since he did not talk to you about his problems, you have no idea what he is thinking or what wrong signals he was reading. If your guy has stopped calling and you want to keep the relationship, you should at least call or email him asking him what is up and why hasn’t he called you. You should include in your message a little about your feelings about him and that you want to keep the relationship together. As hard as it is to step back, after making your initial contact that is what you will need to do. You need to step back and let him decide what to do with the new information.

Too Clingy

Before you chalk this relationship up as the guy being just a complete jerk you will need to take a look at what role you played in the split. It is possible that it had nothing to do with you at all but you would be fooling yourself if you did not at least consider that your actions may have caused him not to call. This may be especially true if this is not the first guy you dated who suddenly dropped off the face of the earth. Since he stopped calling without even talking to you, you will have to honestly evaluate the relationship yourself.

The most common things that women do to cause a guy stop calling are being overly clingy or constantly calling. It is recommended to reflect and see if you were calling him all of the time or if you always needed to know where he was when he wasn’t with you. A lot of women feel insecure and they worry what their man is doing when he is not with them. If you have been hurt before, this feeling is totally natural but you need to find another way of dealing with those feelings instead of constantly calling or clinging to your guy. Men need to have time to themselves and time with the guys, if they start to feel smothered they will want to leave the relationship.

If this sounds like you than you need to work on that part of yourself before you start to date another man. If you continue along with the same habits then you have a greater risk of the same thing happening all over again.

Moving On

There are so many different reasons as to why a man may just stop calling and often you will probably never know the full reason for him doing this. It is a safe bet to say that if he is the type of man who would choose to ignore you instead of talking to you, you are better off not being in that type of relationship. It may not seem like it now when you are still feeling hurt but when you look back on the relationship you will be able to see the lack of communication between the two of you. You can rest assured that not all men in the world are like this and the majority of them would be decent enough to at least call you on the phone or email you to try to explain why he may not want to see you anymore.

If your guy has stopped calling and stopped returning your phone calls, it may be time for you to move on. I know that at the time you feel like he is the only one for you and that you will never find anyone else like him, but if he is not returning your feelings there really is not much that you can do. Honestly, the best advice you can receive right now it to keep looking toward the future and put this relationship behind you. Mr. Right may be right around the next corner.


  1. Thank you. This helps.

  2. From a very experienced dater: when they stop calling you, all you need to do to is wipe them out from your memory and tell yourself that it was just a dream. Now, you are back to reality. Without him… when they are back – good, and if they are not back – good riddance. It is THE NEXT. And there is always 'the next', even if you do not want to believe it at the moment. Still not convinced?… every time you contact them they make a conscious effort to NOT respond you back. See? Pretty gross I would say…

  3. It helped me feel better. Stop holding on so tightly.

  4. Thanks for your insight. There are a LOT of non-communicating men in the world.

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