Jealousy is defined as a negative feeling of fear and anxiety over the belief that you will lose something of value. These feelings can be very powerful and have been known to help people realize how important certain things or people are in their lives. This emotion is felt by all of us at some point in our lives and recent studies show that we learn the feeling of jealousy at only nine months old. For centuries, both men and women have been using jealousy as a persuasive tool to get the attention of members of the opposite sex.
There are numerous reasons why we would want to make a guy jealous. Perhaps you want to prove to your ex that you are doing just fine without him or make him realize what a mistake he made in letting you go. You could be feeling that your current boyfriend takes you for granted and does not really appreciate you for who you are. Or there could be that special guy who you are trying to attract his attention but nothing seems to work. No matter what your reasons are to make the guy jealous there are several things you can do to test your guy’s jealousy level.
Take Care of Yourself
One of the best steps that you can take to make your ex or current boyfriend jealous is to start putting yourself first. Do not sit home and mope about your recent break-up or fight, you need to get out there and start doing things that you enjoy. Start planning your nights full of activities because this will help your guy realize that you are happy with or without him. Not only will your new perspective of putting yourself first instead of him make him jealous, it will also be better for you than moping.
Another way to take care of yourself is to start taking better care of how you look. Try hitting the gym to help you get your body back in shape and lose those few extra pounds. Treat yourself to a make-over compete with a new hair style and a new outfit. This new look with also help to build your self-esteem and your confidence. When your guy sees your new look and your renewed confidence, it will help him see what he is missing, which can be the perfect way to make him jealous.
Try Ignoring Him
If you are feeling underappreciated by your guy chances are that you have made yourself available to him at all times. You are probably there for him every time he calls or wants to go out. This can easily lead to a guy to take you for granted because he knows that no matter what he does, you will always be there whenever he calls. This can hold true for your current boyfriend or that great friend of yours that you are hoping to become more than friends with. This lack of appreciation will continue until you put a stop to it and let them know you won’t necessarily always be there.
Start by not answering his phone call every time he calls. He can leave a message and you can call him back a few hours later. Also, say no sometimes when he wants to do things with you. He should see that you have other important things in your life and that you do not put everything on hold for him. Most important, when you do not answer the phone or say no to a date, you do not need to explain to him why it took you so long to call back or why you can’t go out with him that night. Leaving a little mystery can cause a man to get jealous because he is thinking of all of the things that you could be doing without him.
Flirting With Other Guys
Flirting with other guys is another way to ensure that your guy gets jealous because nothing catches their eye more than you laughing and giggling with another guy. Men have a competitive nature causing them to instantly begin comparing themselves when you start flirting with another guy. The key with flirting is to be sure that you do flirt with other guys in front of your man because just hearing about it from someone else will not have the same effect. You want to be careful with flirting and be sure that you do not take it too far; you still want the guy to know that you are available.
Flirting can help you make your ex jealous by showing him that other guys find you attractive and that there are plenty of fish in the sea for you. Flirting can also make your current boyfriend crazy jealous because he most likely hates to see you act like that with other guys. Hopefully, it will remind him of how lucky his is because there are many other guys who find you attractive. Flirting can also help you catch that guy you have been hoping will ask you out. When he sees you around other guys it is likely to help him realize that he better ask you out before he misses his chance.
Date Other Guys
Dating another guy is a sure way to make your man jealous because he will realize that other guys find you attractive. It is amazing how even your ex will not like you with another guy and will quickly become jealous if he see you out with him. This is a good way to keep yourself independent and let your ex know that you are not waiting around for him. If you are in a committed relationship, then dating other guys is not an option for you. You can hang out with male friends of yours and this is most likely going to be enough to make your boyfriend jealous.
Be Careful: May Cause Reverse Effect
Making your guy jealous is likely to make your current boyfriend realize how lucky he is to have you, or make your ex realize what a mistake it was to lose you. It can also help you finally catch the eye of that special guy. You can use this persuasive tool to help teach your guy a lesson but you need to be very careful how you proceed with it. You may want to only try one or two of the suggestions because if you lay it on too thick you may inadvertently cause the opposite effect and lose your guy altogether. Start by just testing the waters to see how jealous your guy will get.
It is also important to realize that jealousy is a powerful emotion and with the wrong guy or the wrong set of circumstances, jealousy can easily make matters worse. Depending on your guy making him jealous may make him angry or abusive, so you need to be very careful about which steps you take to make him jealous. You may also lose the guy by making him think you don’t like him so don’t be too extreme, you just need to make him a little jealous to have the effects you’re hoping for.
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