If you have been looking for the right girl for a long time and for whatever reason have been unsuccessful, maybe you are doing something wrong. First of all there are many factors involved with finding the right girl. Some of these factors you have zero control over and some you do. Remember that fate and timing play a major role in you meeting the right person. However, you are the one who creates the right circumstances in which you will meet and fall in love with the girl of your dreams. You may have some work you need to do on yourself in order to bring your plan together.
Looking in the Wrong Places
If you are looking for a girl to have a good time with who you can wake up next to completely hung over then by all means hit the bar and party hardy! However, if you are looking for a great girl who you can fall in love with and maybe even marry someday, you probably will not be finding her at the local pub. Most girls that you meet and go home with from the bar are there looking for a good time not a boyfriend. With that being said, if you are looking for the right girl in the wrong places this may be why you have not found her as of yet.
What Are the Right Places?
This is where it becomes quite tricky really. There are no “right places” but there are wrong places. Seems to be a bit of a double standard doesn’t it? Well, the truth is you can meet the right girl anywhere, even in a bar but the chances of meeting a nice girl you can take home to mama in the bar are slim. You can meet the right girl at a church function but you could also just as easily meet the wrong girl there. Usually the people we meet and wind up dating are people we go to school with, work with, live next door to or even shop with at the same grocery store. People do what they do and when they least expect it the right person just seems to come along.
Stop Trying so Hard
The harder you try to find the right girl the more disappointed you may be. When you try too hard what you do is set your expectations much too high. Each and every girl is put on a pedestal and you tell yourself “this could be the one”. The minute you let your guard down and realize that it is you who needs to send out the right signals then you are going to be more likely to find the right girl. You must remain confident without becoming cocky. Live your life and do your thing and do not think too much about the fact that you have not met your soul mate yet. Love always finds us when we are not looking, always keep that in mind.
Excel at Your Goals
The right girl is looking for the right guy and that is something you will have to keep in kind at all times. No girl wants a slacker and they say that we only attract people who are as healthy as we are. If you are a pot head with no goals in mind who sits on the couch playing video games then you may not find a good girl to settle down with. If you are looking for the right girl then you better focus on being a good catch. A guy who is financially stable or at least focusing his attention on his studies in order to better himself is a much more appealing prospect for most girls.
A Word on Online Dating Sites
You may become tempted to try out a few online dating sites in order to speed up the process of finding a good girl. This may be just fine and there are a lot of very successful relationships that have started in this way but remember to keep your expectations low. Firstly, pics are not always an accurate description of what a person looks like in person. This is not to say that physical beauty is everything but it carries a lot of weight in the beginning. Secondly, it is very hard to really know a person from talking to them online. This is because people have personalities and habits that do not always show up through online conversations. Imagine meeting a girl online who you think is just perfect and then meeting up with her somewhere only to find that her voice is obnoxious to you. This sounds petty but it does happen. With that being said, go ahead and check out some online dating sites if that is what you want to do but don’t expect to meet your dream girl on the first go.
In some cases the right girl is standing right in front of you but you don’t see her. By lowering your expectations and realizing that everyone is human and that no one is going to be perfect in every department you may begin to see a much wider range of prospects. At the end of the day finding a person that you can talk with, laugh with and that you share a mutual attraction with is all any of us can ask for. If you set your sites on the things you see in the movie theater and on TV then you are in for a major disappointment because in the real world things are not like that.