Most women know when they are being flirted with but not always. There are many things that men do subtly that are actually methods of flirting. If you want to know if a man is flirting with you then pay attention to the things he says and does. Keep in mind that some men are shy and have trouble showing their feelings for women, especially if they like them a lot. For this reason you may need to be more attentive if you are trying to determine if a guy is flirting with you or just being nice. There is a difference so you want to be sure you can spot the signs so that you don’t jump to the wrong conclusion.
Does He Focus on You a Lot?
If a man is interested in you he is going to focus a lot of attention on you in the flirting stages. If you are in a room full of people it may feel as though you are the only one in the room. This does not mean that anytime a guy talks to you that he is flirting with you. If he seems like he is preoccupied with other things then he may not be flirting but if you seem to be his only object of interest and he hangs on your every word then he is probably flirting. In addition, he may linger a bit longer than necessary if you are in a work or school setting making you wonder if he is about to be late for something.
Does He Find Ways to Touch You?
If the guy finds small ways of touching you when interacting with you such as gently squeezing your upper arm when he greets you or hugging you goodbye when you leave then he may be flirting with you. Of course this is a hard one because some people are just more touchy feely than others. However, if the touches seem to be a bit more on the sensual side or last a bit longer than usual then there is a very good chance that he is in fact flirting with you.
Is He Extra Inquisitive About You?
Generally speaking when a guy has a crush on you he will ask you a number of questions about yourself and express a rather marked interest in your life. This is not quite the same as “How are the kids?” This type of questioning is a bit deeper like where you grew up, what your favorite band is, what you like to do on weekends and so forth. If a guy seems overly interested in everything about you then he is probably seriously crushing on you and flirting as well. Asking a lot of questions about you is a sign that he is trying to connect with you on a more intimate level.
Watch His Eyes
Are they always following you wherever you go? If you work or go to school together and can see each other from your desks, do you look up often to see him gazing at you? Does he make eye contact with you often? These are all things to look for if you are dealing with a guy who may not be confident enough to blatantly flirt with you. They say that the eyes are the window to the soul and this is quite true. By watching his eyes you can get a better idea of how much he is watching you.
Does He Constantly Compliment You?
Does he constantly pay you compliments about different things? If he tells you how great you look in your sweater or in your new shoes then this is one of those times when you just want to ask “What do you need for a brick to fall on your head?” Of course he is flirting with you! If he is not flirting with you then he just has an irregular interest in women’s clothing, in which case it may be safe to assume he isn’t flirting with you. However, if he goes out of his way to find ways of complimenting you then it is a safe bet to assume that he is into you.
Is He Always There?
If there is a guy who seems to be there every time you look up, even when he has little other reason to be there then perhaps it is because he likes you. When a guy is trying to “hook up” with you or ask you out then he will want to find excuses for being near you as much as possible. If this is a work situation and he personally delivers items to you that he could have easily sent someone else with then this is a good indication that he wanted to see you. If you work in the service industry in some capacity then you may notice that he frequents your job often and even asks for you by name when he comes in.
Does He Gravitate Toward You?
You may notice that he seems to find ways of getting closer to you when the two of you are at a party or other event that is crowded. Somehow he always ends up standing right next to you and engaging in conversation with you. He may even seem to be very agreeable to everything you say, no matter what the topic is. Generally speaking men are mingles. If you notice him forgoing mingling to stand by you all night at a social event then this is a big YES, he is flirting with you.
The truth is as a woman you are going to know eventually whether a man is flirting with you. It may not be apparent right away but men, being the kind of creatures they are, are going to find a way to let you know what is on their mind. It may take them some time if they are shy but sooner or later they are going to get impatient and step up the pace. If you have read this article and are still unsure of whether or not someone is flirting with you then you can sit back and wait for something revealing to take place. On the other hand if you like the man who you think may be flirting with you then you can always make the first move.