Texting is very popular today. In fact, more people like to text than to actually talk on the phone. For this reason there are a number of ways in which you can flirt with someone via text message. However, there are some important things that you should be aware of before engaging in any sort of flirtatious text messages. These are known as unspoken rules to text flirting and will help to make your life a bit easier. In addition, following some simple rules will help you to avoid problems or embarrassing situations.
Only Text Available Recipients
Obviously, you want to be sure that the object of your affection is actually free. Not only may you text this person when he/she is actually with someone else, making for quite an awkward situation but there may also be times that this person is busy at work or doing something else. For this reason you should always start a friendly yet non-flirtatious conversation before delving into full blown flirts. Once you have determined that your guy/girl is available and ready to have a “conversation” then by all means let the games begin.
Watch Your Timing
Make sure that you time your text messages right. You want to make sure that your text messages will not become an annoyance. For example, texting someone something flirty at 2 in the morning may not be the best idea. That person may be right in the middle of an awesome dream when you text, thereby totally disrupting his/her sleep. Some people cannot stand to be awoken at night so if you are not sure that he/she is awake, do not text. Obviously, if you are already in contact with the person and know that he/she is awake then it does not matter what time of the day or night it is.
Make Sure Your Texts Are Clear
One thing some people hate is when way too much internet or text slang is used in messages. For one the person you are texting may not understand you lingo and this could be confusing. For another thing, when you are talking to someone seriously or trying to flirt, it is best to write everything out. If you text someone with something that he/she does not even understand then what is the point? It is always better to make sure the person you are texting has received the whole message and has understood each and every word.
Don’t Be a Pest
If you are texting someone and that person is totally ignoring you it may be because he/she does not share your interest. It could also just be that it is a bad time. Sending repeated text messages will quickly get old so make sure that you stop texting when you notice there are no replies coming. This is extremely important as you don’t want to come across as a stalker. Send one message and wait about 30 minutes, if nothing has been replied to you then leave it alone. That person will call or text whenever the time is right for him/her. If he/she does not ever reply or call back then move on you are wasting your time.
You probably want to start your text flirting in a very subtle way. One that will make you appear to be witty and charming but not a total flirt. The goal is to make yourself appear to be a natural flirt and not like someone who is purposely trying to flirt. Do not be too transparent as an element of mystery is always best. Rather than making a lewd sexual joke try saying something that has sexy under tones but that can be construed in more than one way. If you use your creativity you will come up with something to say.
Express Yourself With Emoticons
Since the person you are texting cannot see you it is always a good idea to throw little smiley faces or sad faces or some other type of emoticon in that fits what you have said. This is not only important when using text messaging for flirting but also for anything else you are attempting to say in text or email. Things can easily be taken the wrong way when not backed with some kind of an emoticon. For example, you may say something as a joke and it can seem serious until the little winking emoticon is seen along side of it.
Always Check for Typos
Never, under any circumstances hit that send button until you are sure there are no typos and that your message is being sent to the right recipient. First of all sending a message full of typos makes you look kind of stupid and hasty, secondly sending your message to the wrong person could result in dire consequences depending on your circumstances. For these reasons always go through your message thoroughly before hitting send.
Be Quick With Your Replies
You want to be sure that the person you are texting back and forth knows that he/she is very important to you and that he/she has your full attention. If something comes up and you must stop texting for awhile then tell the person that you will be right back (brb). This way the person will never begin to feel as if he/she is being ignored. This is very important, especially if the person you are texting does mean something to you.
Keep in mind that text flirting is not the same as “sexting”. Keep your flirting as clean as possible unless you are already in a sexual relationship with the person you are flirting with. You do not want to come across as over-the-top horny or desperate. The goal here is to let the person know that you are into him/her. Once you have established that the person you are texting is definitely into you as well then you can think about moving your messages into a steamier category.