Dating Women Who Make More Money Than You

Dating a woman who makes more money than you can be a bit of a blow to your self esteem. You may sometimes get the sense that you are not enough for her and that you have to do more. Maybe there are things you wish you could buy her but cannot afford. The thing to remember is that at the end of the day our paycheck is not what defines us. We are worth much more than any amount of money we could earn. The problem is that society as a whole puts so much emphasis on money and social standing that it is hard to feel like someone’s equal if you make less money than them. This is especially true if the woman in the relationship makes more money than the man.

The Need to Provide

All men have an inherent desire to provide for the ones they love. This is not to say there are not some dead beats out there that could care less but generally speaking men are providers at heart. If you are in a relationship with a woman who is making more money than you, you may be feeling a bit inadequate in this department. If you are in this situation try to realize that you have a few choices here. You can either strive to get a better paying job and improve your income or you can resign yourself to the fact that she makes more money and get on with your relationship. As long as she does not seem to be effected by the fact that she makes more money than you, you really should not sweat it. You can provide in other ways like making her feel beautiful and loved as much as possible. A woman wants to be cherished; she does not want your paycheck. If she does want your paycheck more than she wants you then she may not be the right girl for you.

You Can Still Offer Gifts

Even if you feel like you can never buy your woman anything close to what you think she deserves, there is no reason you cannot still buy her gifts. A woman who cares about you will not frown upon a small or inexpensive gift. She will be happy that you took the time to think of her. Women, by nature, love to be appreciated and shown how important they are. If you can only afford to buy her a single rose and a small box of chocolates then by all means do not be ashamed of it. Never hold back giving a woman a gift because you think it will not be enough. As long as it comes from your heart it will be.

Do Not Resent Her

Some men are so affected by the fact that their women make more money than they do that they actually begin to build resentments. This is very much like a little boy not liking to be beat by a girl on the playground or a guy who does not like that his girl is smarter than him. Grow up! This is not grammar school anymore. Do not resent your woman because she is successful. Be happy for her and share in her joy. She cannot help that she makes a nice living and more than likely she never set out in life with a goal of making more money than the guys she dates. If you feel as though you fall short remember that you own that feeling. She is just living her life. You will have to learn to live with her making a better in come than you.

Don’t Get Upset When She Offers You Help

Women are care takers by nature. It is part of the maternal instinct and there is very little to be done about it. If you are dating a woman who makes significantly more money than you and she really likes you then she isn’t going to want to see you struggle. It will be only natural for her to want to offer you some help. Do not bite her head off and get mad at her for offering to get you out of a jam or buy you something that you need. This will hurt her and make her feel bad. She wants to make you happy because she enjoys being with you. Unless she is throwing money in your face and not letting you forget that she brings home the bacon, you should really try and be easy about it. If she has something to offer you and you need it, do not be afraid to take it.

You Should Still Offer to Pay

Even if you cannot really swing taking her out to dinner, never just assume that she is going to pay the check because she makes more money. Do not forget that she also knows that she makes more money than you. Offer to pay the check sometimes. It is just a nice thing to do and it will show her that you are not trying to take advantage of her. The problem is that while some men get resentful when their ladies make more than them, there are also some who begin to take advantage and forget that their women still need to be courted sometimes. If she has your best interest at heart then she will not expect you to take her places or buy her things that are not within your means. If she does seem to expect this then you can either talk to her and let her know that you would love to do things for her but just cannot afford it or you can reevaluate your relationship with her.

Money is one of the leading causes of trouble in relationships. Try not to ever let money get in the way of how you feel about a person. At the end of the day it does not matter how much money we have if we do not have love. Living your life with money as the first thing on your mind will never bring you joy.



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  1. I would like input on a situation where the woman has the most money as in: a widow vs a suitor with a small pension and SSA income, older age and no way of increasing his income. Like the values elucidated in the previous article, and agree that money never trumps human value, but my guy is very sensitive about the disparity in our "worth," and available monies. Heck, I just want to be able to travel and enjoy life while we are both still able. But I do not want him to feel diminished in any way if I should be paying more than half of any fun we have. Help!!

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