You can love someone with all of your heart but have no clue how to communicate that love to him/her. This is why it is really important to understand what expressions of love are and how you can make them. You can say “I love you” fifty times a day but if you do not show it with your actions then it is truly meaningless to the person you are with. Instead you must learn ways to show the way you feel rather than simply speak your feelings. There are many ways in which you can show someone that you love them. The funny thing is that the smallest gestures can go a really long way. The following suggestions may help you to show the one you love how you feel.
Make an Effort to Create Alone Time
Many of us have busy lives, especially if there are children, pets and in laws to deal with but that does not mean that there is never a window of opportunity to get away from it all with the one you love. Try and find time to take the one you love away, even if just for a few hours if that is all you can swing. Make a date night or make arrangements for the kids to go to a friend or relatives house for the evening. It is not the amount of time you are able to spend with your significant other; it is the quality of that time that matters. It is also not so important if the evening goes exactly as planned; it is the fact that you made the effort that means the most.
Be Honest Always
This is difficult in relationships because we are always trying to protect the feelings of the person we are with or even trying to avoid disputes. For this reason we may lie about running into an old friend of the opposite sex or about other things that seem innocent to us. The problem is that any lies you release into the universe usually have a way of coming back to bite you in the backside. It is next to impossible to get away with a lie forever. It could take days, weeks, months or even years but eventually a lie finds its way out of hiding. When this happens it puts an unbelievable strain on a relationship. If you want to show the one you are with that you truly love him/her then you will have to learn from the beginning that loving always means being trustworthy and always having that person’s best interest at heart.
Use Touch (Kino) to Express Love
There is nothing more meaningful than the power of touch. Humans need to be touched almost as much as they need food and water. When you love someone you should try and use soft and loving touch, also known as kino as often as possible. Mind you, this does not have to be sexual in nature. It could be something as simple as reaching over and gently rubbing your partner’s back while watching TV or stroking his/her hair gently. If you think about how nice it makes you feel to have someone rub your shoulders or play with your hair then you understand how important this type of touch is. Never be afraid to express your love through touch.
Listen to Your Partner
They say to love someone is to listen to them. Listening is a lot more than just hearing what someone says. When you really listen to someone you are fully focused on that person, offering 100% of your attention. If your partner needs to talk to you about something or is having a bad day, really listen to what he or she is saying to you. We all get busy and sometimes find it hard to concentrate from time to time but be careful not to make brushing your lover off a habit. When you love someone you want him/her to know that he/she is important to you and that any problems he/she is having you will be there to help with.
Being considerate does not just mean holding the door open for someone when you are out in public or making sure you put the toilet seat down. There is much more to it than that. When you love someone you should consider them in everything you do. Every decision you make should be made with your partner in mind. This is the true meaning of consideration in a relationship. Never assume that your way is the best way and your wife/husband will just have to deal with it. Being considerate means thinking about the feelings of the person you love and never doing anything that may not be in his/her best interest. This is not to say you will never make mistakes but if you try 100% of the time not to then you will surely make less of them.
Verbalize Your Feelings
While it is true that actions speak louder than words, you must still tell your significant other how you feel as often as possible. Always say “I love you” before leaving the house for the day or before ending a phone call. It may not seem like a big deal but it means a lot. Never miss a chance to tell your partner how pretty or handsome he/she looks. No one can ever be told that he/she is beautiful too many times. You want your partner to know that he/she still does it for you, no matter how many years you have been together. You can express your love by making him/her feel valued at all times.
The main thing to remember is that your partner cannot read your mind. Everyone has days when doubt shows up. Be there to put an end to those doubts and to make your partner aware of how much you love him/her. These are some of the most important things you can do when trying to express your love and admiration for another person.