The clues are the regular contact, the sleeping together, the kissing and the sex. However it’s not always that clear cut and sometimes you can develop a relationship with someone that seems to be more than just friendship but not quite official dating either. This scenario usually emerges when you’re close friends with a member of the opposite sex, and you then start to find yourself spending more time together, texting too often, and getting much closer than you normally would with your friends. At this point your relationship seems to have naturally evolved and you have the perfect opportunity to date someone who you already see so often and you already get on with so well. At this stage you are ‘more than friends’ and there is an underlying understanding between you that something might happen though neither of you has likely said it.
While this is a great opportunity it is also a dangerous one. The problem is that as neither of you has ‘defined’ your relationship, or taken the plunge and made a move, neither of you need to be ‘committed’ to the relationship either. This then means that someone else could easily come along and try and make a move on your friend and they might end up in a relationship with them.
You need then to make a move or tell your friend how you feel – or at least to discuss the situation. But to do so in this situation can be risky as without any confirmation on the situation it can be easy to read the signs wrongly. You need to be able to identify the signs that you are more than just friends and that there is something going on that’s more akin to romance. Here we’ll look at a few so that you can build the confidence in the situation that you need in order to take the plunge and say something.
Signs You’re More Than Friends
You Text A Lot: Think how much you text your best friend of the same sex. If you are texting this person more than that then there is a good chance that something is going on. The need to be in constant contact is very much a sign that someone wants to be in a relationship with you and is similar to how couples behave anyway.
You’ve Had ‘Moments’: If you’ve been slow dancing in a club as a ‘joke’ only for you both to look up and look into each others’ eyes and nearly kiss then this is a sure sign that there’s perhaps something else between you both other than just friendship. At the same time of course if you actually have kissed – and particularly if this is something you’ve done more than once – then there is clearly at least some kind of attraction there, even if you were both drunk.
You Choose Romantic Activities: If your idea of having a good time with this friend is to get a movie in, to sit under a blanket and to share a meal, or to go out for a meal and then head into town for drinks, then either of these things are signs that you are likely more than friends. Again this is especially true if it’s something you do often, and it’s sure to create a certain closeness even if it is not already a symptom of that kind of closeness.
You’ve Both Made ‘Remarks’: If you’ve said things to each other like ‘I don’t know how I’d carry on without you’ or ‘you’re the best man/woman I know’ – then this might again suggest that you have feelings for each other over and above simple friendship.
There’s a Chemistry: If there’s a chemistry between the two of you then you should feel it as a tangible sexual tension and a kind of innate understanding. You’ll likely laugh a lot, touch a lot, and might even play fight. Chances are you will take the piss out of each other a lot and you might even have play fights from time to time. Furthermore you might find that people on the outside mistake you for a couple and think you already are which is another sign that there’s something more than just friendship going on.
Seeing Them With Someone Else Makes You Jealous: You might have difficulties deciding whether your ambiguous feelings are mutual, but there should be no difficulty in finding out how you feel about it all. A great sign is that you get jealous when they flirt with someone else and this suggests that you already think of them as ‘yours’. If you feel this way, then that alone has changed the dynamic of your relationship and it is reason enough to talk about the situation.