Dating a police officer means dating a responsible member of the community who has made it their living to protect the rights and safety of their fellow man and woman, and this is of course something that can be a great source of pride. At the same time it means having a partner who is passionate about what they do, and who is bringing home a good salary with a good pension plan. And then there’s the uniform…
However at the same time this can also come with it a number of different problems and points of contention that don’t exist when dating people with other careers. Dating a police officer can be stressful and at times scary even, and there are a few issues you need to consider and work through. Here we will look at what those are, and briefly discuss them so that you can decide whether they are likely to cause a problem and how you can overcome them.
It’s a Worry: Now not all branches of policing are going to involve any danger and if they’re a desk jockey or a ticket inspector then this isn’t necessary likely to come with any particular risk. However if they are out patrolling the streets or even directing traffic this can be a different story and if you are the kind of person who is prone to worrying then this can mean that you are left at home worrying about whether they are going to make it back okay or not.
If you do worry a lot and their job is dangerous then you need to discuss this with them so that they might put your mind at rest. You might also want to consider getting them to change their job within the police force, though in many cases their job will be important to them and this might not be a sacrifice they are willing to make. Remember though that police officers are well trained and equipped and will generally do things in pairs – and many other jobs such as working on a building site carry other considerable risks. You just need to decide whether that’s enough to put your mind at rest and whether you’re happy to continue in that light.
The Hours Can Be Antisocial: Again this will depend on the particular role your partner has within the police force. However many positions will involve patrolling around pubs and clubs during closing hours, or getting called out at unearthly hours or during children’s parties in order to attend to an emergency. Again this is a personal decision and you need to decide whether you’re okay with it – if you are able to see the plus side then it means you can get some time to yourself to pursue your interests or engage in some light reading or TV watching. And while you do you can know that your partner is going off to do something worthwhile. Again if you do have a problem with it, you can always try and convince them to change departments.
It Can Be a Power Trip: Unfortunately police work has a bad rep in some circles and this comes from a few police men and women who let the power go to their head. At the same time these aspects of the job can sometimes attract the wrong kinds of people. These people can be highly bureaucratic and or bullies and this can make many people reluctant when considering dating a cop. However what’s important to remember is that these are really just a few bad eggs spoiling it for the majority. It’s important to judge you partner on their own merits and not stereotypes and misconceptions. Ask yourself what kind of person they are and why they’re in the police force and let this inform your decision.
It Reflects Your Beliefs: Police men and women essentially have the task of carrying out the law, and that law is a direct result of politics. This means that they will likely be patriotic types and will likely have a lot to say regarding the law. If you are very anti-establishment or very much disagree with the laws in place then this might lead you to have some disputes and arguments – or on the other hand it could lead to some stimulating and interesting debates and discussions where you learn another point of view.
You Can Feel Under Scrutiny: Sometimes knowing a cop as a friend or as a partner can make you feel as though you are under scrutiny and like you can’t cut loose. For instance if you smoked weed then you might feel like you can’t tell your date, or if you downloaded music through file sharing sites then you might feel you have to stop. However that’s not how a police officer’s job works and they’re not going to arrest you for a petty crime while they’re off duty any more than any of your friends are likely to perform a citizens arrest.
It’s a Way of Life: Many police officers will take their job very seriously and will bring it home with them. They will likely have friends in the force and will talk a lot about their views regarding the police force. Having a partner who is passionate about something can be very attractive and so this shouldn’t be viewed as a bad thing, you just need to be aware of the possibility going in.