Tips for Husbands of Pregnant Women

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First of all congratulations on the wonderful new addition that you are about to have to your family. Children are a blessing and you will be able to enjoy their love for many years to come. The difficult part for many men is seeing their wives through to the delivery room. We have all heard stories of women turning into crazy people when they are pregnant and some of these stories are enough to make any man scared.

The truth is for a women being pregnant is a wonderful and difficult experience all at the same time and this sometimes is why a wide array of emotions are displayed. If you are reading this article, it is already obvious that you are a loving husband and want to do what is best for your wife. That is a great start but understanding some simple tips will help you get through the next nine months.

Be Understanding

Your wife is going through all of the hormonal and physical changes with her body and that it going to be very difficult for you to understand. Although you will never be able to experience the things she is going through, it is a good idea to read up on what to expect while your wife is pregnant. It will help you relate better to her if you know some of the changes that she is experiencing. This will help you have a better understanding but one good tip to remember is to never tell your wife that you understand what she is going through.

Once you know what she is dealing with, it should be easier for you to be more understanding of her new quirky traits. You may need to realize that some of the things you used to do will no longer be practical for her. If she is experience morning sickness, you will quickly learn that this sickness is not just seen in the morning and it may prevent her from wanting to go out as much. Learn to live with her limits and trust her instinct.

Learn to Let Things Go

There is one very important thing to understand when your wife is pregnant and that is that she may change her mind and mood instantly. It may leave you wondering what just happened and what did you do. You are going to have to learn to just let it go and live with this. Your wife’s body is changing and her hormones are running like crazy. She wants to keep doing the things that she used to do but her body may be telling her something else.

She also may start to snap at you, especially during the last few months. She still loves you but is more than likely becoming increasingly frustrated about the many different things that she is now unable to do. Since you are the closest person in her life, you will tend to get the brunt of her frustration. You will need to grow thick skin for the next nine months and learn to just let a lot of it go.

Make Her Feel Special

As you wife’s body begins to change, so will how she sees herself. This will make her feel insecure about herself, particularly her body and how she looks. You can counter this by making her feel good about herself and how she looks. Try to remind her how beautiful she looks as her extra weight is normal.

They say that women get a glow about them when they are pregnant, so it is likely that you will find your wife even more attractive now that she is pregnant. You should tell her this and tell her often because she will need all the help to build up her self-esteem that she can have. In simple terms, just love her and let her know that she is loved.

Help Out Around the House

When your wife becomes pregnant her body will start making the necessary changes that are needed to support carrying a baby. This will make her extremely tired, especially during the first and third trimester. With this in mind, she will simply not be able to do as much as she used to do. This means that the housework that used to be her responsibility to do will not get done because she won’t have the energy left to do it.

First, you need to be understanding of this and not expect things to be as tidy as they once were. This also means that you will have to pick up the workload that she is now too tired to do. This could include shopping, cooking, cleaning or anything else that you see that needs to be done. She will certainly appreciate all that you do and it will help her pregnancy go a lot better and keep her stress level down.

Keep Romance Alive

Many men assume that since their wife is pregnant that she will no longer be interested in sex. Well men, think again. For some women being pregnant actually increases their sex drive due to the hormone levels in their body. For other women, being pregnant takes a lot of their energy from them and they may not want sex as often. Either way it is important to keep the romance alive in your marriage the entire nine months.

You wife will want to be able to feel that she is still sexy and desirable and you are the only one who can provide that for her. You should plan special dates and times that you set aside just for the two of you. This will be good for the both of you and it is easier to have these special times before the baby comes than after the baby. When the baby comes and consumes all of your time, you will be glad that you took the time to plan these special days while she was pregnant.

Appreciate Her

Most of all, you should let your wife know how much you appreciate her and how glad you are that she is the mother of your child. She will be providing you with the greatest blessing of your life so let her know how much that means to you. Even on those days when she is not as pleasant as you would like, tell her you love and appreciate her. Cards and flowers are a nice touch during your wife’s pregnancy and since men are not as good with words as women are, they can represent your love and affection for her. Nine months may seems like a long time but it will go faster than you think, just stay calm and show her love and respect.

Some women start to feel overwhelmed with the responsibility of being a mother while she is pregnant while men do not usually get this feeling until after the baby is born. Encourage her as much as you can and let her know that she will be a good mom. Help her when planning things for the baby like setting up the nursery, picking a doctor, choosing a daycare center or going to doctor’s visits with her. Letting her know that you are in this together may help ease some of her stress.

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  • This article is clearly written from the perspective of a female, statements like she is providing you with the greatest blessing, aren't helpful! We're not 'given' anything and we will and do work hard to ensure the burden is shared as best we can. I think this article belittles the male participation in pregnancy and the upbringing of the child, we are instrumental not supplemental! Reduced to the extent of the delivery of sundries and confectionary because we can't use our 'words' is disgusting. I notice no mention of the post birth mother taking account of the horrors applied to the fathers during pregnancy and making amends… But then we are just inert sponges incapable of empathy or self determination against the bright light of rationality that is the glowing and beautiful pregnant female.

    • Hi, I’m going through the same issue. I couldn’t agree with you more Mr. Unbiased. Not all guys are like that being not understanding.

  • Unbiased, grow up… You obviously learned nothing from this article, not due to poor writing though. Learn to appreciate.

  • Where is any mention for the support for the father to be? What are we just punching bags for the mothers to be? Do we still live in the 1960s?

  • I have to say that this article was definitely helpful in some ways, but I also think that it could go more in depth in some areas for better understanding. It is very important to TRY and understand what your spouse is going through and to be as helpful as possible – for it is certainly true that she is giving us men a blessing that would never be possible without her! I have to say that this is definitely one of the most difficult and trying times that I have, and possibly ever will, go through. Although I do not entirely agree with comment #1, sometimes it is also nice to hear some appreciation for the things that the man SHOULD be doing to help out as well. But regardless, as difficult as things may be, it will all be worth it in the end and I hope that every man is as appreciative of their wife as I am!

  • How I wish to have a Godly husband who is gentle, graceful, sincere, honest, loyal, understanding, good sense of humor, supportive, sensitive and positive!

  • Directed towards comment #1 (unbiased my a$$)…

    Did you even read this article? Have you ever been married, or had a pregnant partner? If so, I pity her. If you have experienced a woman post child birth, you are obviously bitter. I take pity on both the woman and the child.

    Grow up, and get a life.

  • Men think they have it so rough during a woman's pregnancy. I think this article is helpful. As much as a woman has to change mind, body and spirit… you would think asking a little change and a little more out of a man or partner during this time wouldn't be unreasonable. I can't stand men who whine and cry.

  • All sounded like common knowledge to me. Very one sided. Every woman is different and so is every pregnancy. I'm Looking for an in depth explanation.

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