Many people agree that there are simply not enough hours in the day to complete all the daily tasks. We often have a chronic time shortage on our hands, which makes it difficult if not impossible to find time for ourselves. At some point, we can be distracted from essential daily tasks. As the result we could be drawn into irrelevant activities than concentrating on more urgent issues. People often complain that the lack of time make them stressed. Even people with a seemingly ordered work habit are often affected by stress, because they have very large workload.
These are a few things you can do to help you to take time for yourself:
Allocate “Alone Time” in Your Schedule
It’s obviously impossible to eliminate time shortage. But, it is possible to reduce the effect of stress and use your time more efficiently. The only way to make a time for yourself is to put it in you schedule. Make sure your “Alone Time” is completely undisturbed. A soothing bubble bath won’t be relaxing if it is interrupted by numerous phone calls the same holds true for your attempt to read an enjoyable novel. To enjoy a quiet morning, some people settle on becoming early birds, but they don’t compensate it by sleeping early, as the result sleep deprivation may happen. You shouldn’t sacrifice good night sleep to enjoy some solitude. If men can escape the bustle by spending some time outdoor, women should also spend a few hours each week to do anything they like, like walking around the mall, go to a day spa or get a manicure.
Employers and schools schedule breaks for employees and students because they want people to function well. Human need some time to relax, unwind and release some emotional pressure. If you believe that a spare time will somehow appear out of nowhere, you may be sorely disappointed. Your relaxation time is as important as anything else in your daily schedule, so allocate enough time for yourself and enjoy it.
Don’t Use the Internet
Surfing the web aimlessly is a huge time waster. The web is useful if you can use it responsibly. So many people are addicted to online games and lower-priority knowledge that they use up most of their relaxation time in the Internet. If you really want to make your relaxation time useful, stay away from the computer. After you’ve completed a relaxing activity, you can use the computer, if you still have some time left to spare.
Put Your Children to Bed Early
Some young families use a family bed, in other words, all members of the family sleep in the same bed. For families with a newborn or toddler, the arrangement may work. However, you should put the child in the separate bed if you want to have more time for yourself. You should set a predictable and easy-to-follow routine. At a fixed time each night, you should put your child to sleep in her own bed. You should allocate about one hour afterward to unwind, read a book talk with your spouse or watch a favorite sitcom.
Delegate Your Tasks
If you are not getting enough helps from your spouse and children, then you need to approach them. You should tell them that you’re physically and emotionally overwhelmed with all the responsibilities and obligations. You should also find people at your work that can contribute more and lend you a hand. If you get too much on your plate, your situation is obviously unhealthy. You need some help, if no one can help, you should look for ways to reduce your work. If you fail to do so, your job and obligation may eat you alive.
Limit Work Hours
If possible, you should work for fewer hours. Often, it equals to reduced pay, but sometimes the extra cash doesn’t worth the anxiety and stress anyway. If you want to get some valuable time for yourself, you may need to come home early. Or perhaps, you should go to work later, so once your spouse and children have left the house, you can spend about 30 minutes to enjoy yourself.
Start With Minor Changes
If you plan to spend 30 minutes just for yourself, then you can achieve this by making small and simple changes. You should make a definite commitment to start allocating time for yourself. However, making even a moderate change in your daily, such as allocating 30 minutes each day for “Alone Time” can upset the fine balance that you’ve set for years. Your own needs should get a priority too, in some cases they should be more important than what others are expecting from you. When making small changes, you should feel confident about your decision and refuse to do things that can disturb your plan. If you feel hesitant, it’s quite likely that you reverse changes that you’ve made. As you gradually increase the opportunity to take time for yourself, there should be positive feedbacks to other areas in your life. A relaxed and stress free individual tend to be more productive. Every time you make a new change, you should also set a new boundary. This way, you can have a sense of achievement and resist pressures that try to reverse your progress.
Don’t Be Afraid to Say No
Many people can’t say ‘no’ to others’ requests, even it means that they need to sacrifice their time. They may not have the intention to be seen as kind, giving, and nice individuals; they just simply can’t disappoint others. However, it often means that they do it at the expense of their own physical and mental health. Over time, they’ll realize that they say “yes” to more than they can really afford. Saying ‘no’ doesn’t make you a bad person, if you clearly don’t have the opportunity to help.
Taking time for yourself will require good deal of commitment. Once in awhile something will come along and take up some of your energy and time, which will delay your effort. People who take time for themselves effectively will become more effective, satisfied with their life and more energetic than those who are busying themselves constantly with endless obligations and responsibilities. Your physical and mental health is critical for your well-being and it’s important to ensure that both are maintained as best as you possibly can.