Trust Your Instincts
You don’t need to be a mind reader to find out whether or not you are being lied to, deciding whether what you have been told is a the truth or a fabrication can be discovered by reading and noting a person’s body language and behaviour. The more you take notice of these things the more likely you are to discover the truth. What you really do need to do however is have faith in your instincts as they are very rarely wrong. If for example your partner tells you something but your gut is telling you that they are not being entirely truthful, go with your gut. Most people are pretty good at listening to their gut instincts however when it comes to being lied to by a partner we often choose to ignore what our instincts are telling us as we want to believe that we are not being deceived. Once you start listening to what your instincts are telling you, you will be heading in the right direction.
Whilst instinctual responses can be of great help they can often be hit and miss, especially if your instincts are being clouded by your own insecurities and fears. For example for the majority of the time your instincts will not lie, but if you are already harbouring fears that you are being cheated on or lied to you may instinctively feel like your partner is being dishonest with you, when they are in fact telling the truth. This is part of the reason why you should also look at their behaviour so you can work out for yourself whether they are actually lying to you or you are being a tad paranoid.
Read the Body Language
Body language always tells the truth. If for example your partner alters the way that he stands when he speaks to you, as opposed to the way that he normally stands, or changes the way that they move or don’t move their head, arms and hands, or if they perform unusual eye movements, then it is a sure bet that you are being told a lie. Body language changes when a person is being dishonest as they are attempting to look more convincing, putting their body behind what their words are telling you. They are trying to act like they are being honest. The biggest giveaway is in their eyes, if they avoid giving you eye contact, they are quite simply lying to you. Eye contact gives you the chance to see through their façade and catch them out, which is why liars tend to look away.
Honest communication is carried out through open gestures, open arms, fully facing, eye contact and plenty of hand movements, when someone is lying they tend to tense up, the arm and hand movements become smaller and there will be very limited eye contact. If the arms and hands are moving around whatsoever, pay attention to the timing of his movements; if you are being given the truth then the hands will move at the same time as the information is being relayed, if they are lying the hand movements will come a fraction later. Their body language will be slightly off than usual, this is down to the fact that they have to think about and concentrate on acting naturally towards you.
Final Signs You Are Being Lied To
Many people instinctively touch their face when they tell someone a lie, especially around the nose, mouth and chin area, almost as though they are trying to disguise the fact that what they are saying is false, covering up their faces to hide their lies. Having to lie to someone can cause a lot of nervous tension and they can’t help but fidget in the process of delivering the lie. You may even find that they develop a cough or feel the need to keep clearing their throats, there may also be a lot of pauses and gaps in the conversation filled with ‘umm’ and ‘erm…’ noises. All of these things are delay tactics, used to buy themselves time so that they can think on their feet and make the lie as convincing as possible in order that you believe what they are telling you.
These are only the most used and often displayed signs and indicators that someone is lying to you, there are others. You need to remember to trust your gut instinct first, and if you still feel that they are being dishonest, look to their body language and behaviour for your answers. Be sure that what you have heard and seen from them before you confront them with the accusation of lying, as they will be very defensive and will look to avoid the confrontation.