For most of us, the idea that we form our reality for ourselves has to be accepted gradually. Such a concept contradicts most of the basic “assumptions of life” that we’ve learned in the course of growing up. The heart of any kind of inner work revolves around learning to create our reality consciously. The internal work that we do involves the “raw material” of our own thoughts, feelings and...
Infidelity can be one of the most devastating things to even happen within a marriage or other kind of committed relationship, and it can lead to the dissolution of a partnership quicker than most other experiences. Some things have to be set in order before partners can even begin trying to rebuild trust after such an experience. The infidelity must stop, for one thing, and the circumstances...
There are many reasons why people jump into a living situation with a partner prematurely. They may be worried that if they don’t do so they may lose the relationship. They may be feeling pressured. They may even be inspired by pride and the desire to prove themselves to those who said doubted the relationship. None of these justifications will work in the long run, though. The only healthy...
A lot of the New Age literature out there – and particularly the various material regarding manifestation techniques and the law of attraction – pays lip service to the idea that we create our own reality. Many people do believe this, though they may put their belief into action only up to a certain point. Whenever tragedy or misfortune befalls human beings, the majority still tend to imagine...
The question of how good the bedroom chemistry may be with a partner can generate a certain degree of concern and unease in some people. This can arise in the early stages of a relationship as well as further down the road when attraction is at a lull and the initial spark seems to be dissipated. Research has consistently found that sexual compatibility weighs in strongly as a factor in...
When two people are anticipating their first time out together they can build up a lot of internal expectation. This sense of expectation, in turn, can generate nervousness, edginess, scattered thinking and confused emotions. It’s hard not to think about the future. If this date goes smoothly then there will probably be more. If the date is uncomfortable then that could spell the end of any...
A lot of the information that is communicated in the course of any conversation is actually non-verbal. This communication happens through posture, gestures and stances that may be largely unconscious. You can learn to read these subtle cues to get a better sense of where you stand with the person you’re talking to. What is s/he really feeling? This sort of detective work can be especially...
Our culture was built upon the faculty of logic; and it has taught us to trust logic more than any other mental process. In our modern society, a conclusion that is arrived upon by any means other than deductive reasoning is typically distrusted. The scientific method tells us that we live in a world of facts; and in an indirect way, this belief banished our less tangible feelings and perceptions...
When it comes to our deepest convictions about ourselves and the world, our minds can behave like little lawyers that run around gathering “evidence” to build a case. Information that supports our beliefs is stressed; and any data to the contrary is ignored, oftentimes to such a degree that we no longer even see it. This is the way in which we structure our daily lives with our own...
Dreaming is a natural activity that often carries many erroneous and negative connotations. This is due in part to the intense emotional charge that some dreams carry, and the superstitious fears that many people have about it. Some of the research that has been put forth in the field of psychology has further compounded the problem. The message or meaning of our dreams is made to seem esoteric...
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