CategorySelf Esteem

Feeling Ugly and Unattractive


Feeling ugly and unattractive is a highly common problem that probably all of us have experienced at one time or another. Whether you’re male or female, and no matter how good looking you are in reality, there have probably been times when you felt low and unattractive. This can unfortunately have a big impact on our happiness and our success and has a lot of consequences. First of all, feeling...

How to Appear More Confident Immediately


Confidence, so we are told, is the secret to success in many areas of life. If you are confident then you will instantly be more attractive to the opposite sex, you will be entrusted with more important roles at work and you will attract opportunities and inspire allegiance. If you believe in yourself, so too will everyone else. This is how the story goes anyway and thus we are often told that in...

Self-Esteem: What it Is and How to Improve It


Healthy self-esteem is vital for a happy, successful life. Those with good self-esteem tend to remain longer in education, find it easier to form and maintain stable relationships, and progress further in their career. For those who lack self-esteem, however, life can be a painful struggle. Any therapist will tell you that many of society’s problems can be traced back to poor self-esteem...

Overcome Low Self-Esteem in Six Simple Steps


Life is often a demanding struggle, requiring great courage and strength; the lower your self-esteem, the harder that struggle will be. And the effects of poor self-esteem on the individual, the family, even the wider society, can hardly be overstated. Violence, alcoholism, drug abuse, poor academic achievement, inability to hold down a job, such things can often be traced back to a sense of...

Self-Esteem Activities


Having a low self-esteem is one of the worst things that can afflict someone. It’s not a disease or a condition that will make you ill, but it’s one that will nevertheless affect many areas of your life and make your life a lot more difficult. At the same time if it carries on it can result in more clinical conditions such as depression, and it can even start to affect others...

Midlife Crisis? Here’s Why It’s Time to Improve Your Self-Esteem


The British comedian Armando Iannucci once performed a sketch in which a group of middle-aged men are herded into a care home. A straight-talking nurse then lays out a few painful truths: that they look absurd in denim jeans, that young women no longer find them attractive, and so on. But, amusing as such sketches may be, they trivialize a dangerous phase of life. For those actually enduring a...

Can High Self-Esteem Help to Keep You Well?


One of the most fascinating areas of modern medical research has to do with the relationship between the brain and the body, and the often surprising ability of the former to keep the latter healthy or actually cure diseases. One of the most well-known aspects of this research involves the placebo effect. In clinical drug trials, subjects given an inert sugar pill (the placebo) often show as much...

How to Stop Caring About What Other People Think


Life can be hard enough without always worrying about what other people think. How can you ever expect to relax if you are constantly concerned about how others are viewing you? It’s time to take a step back and look at how much the opinions of other people or your perceived ideas of how they are viewing you are affecting your daily life and your overall standard of living. If you are living your...

A Practical Guide to Living With Low Self-Esteem


Low self-esteem can be a devastating thing to experience and can take the joy out of much of life. Not only that but being low in confidence can also actually sabotage our success in multiple areas life: preventing us from taking chances or putting ourselves forward. ‘Curing’ low self-esteem is not easy though and takes time in the best case scenario. Fortunately there are steps you...

Are You Your Own Person?


Ask a random stranger if he is able to be himself and he will indignantly reply “of course.” In fact, being your own person is harder than it sounds. Indeed, many people delude themselves. Being Defined by Others First, do not allow others to define you. This happens all the time, often without people realizing it. Self-esteem, or “ego,” is one of our major preoccupations...

Mark Goddard, Ph.D.

Mark Goddard, Ph.D.

Mark Goddard, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist and a consultant specializing in the social-personality psychology. His publications include magazine chapters, articles and self-improvement books on CBT for anxiety, stress and depression. In his spare time, he enjoys reading about political and social history.

*The views expressed by Mr. Goddard in this column are his own, are not made in any official capacity, and do not represent the opinions of his employers.