There are times when it is very easy to say NO.
If someone asks you to bungee jump off Victoria Falls then saying NO is easy (unless you actually want to do it).
If a police officer asks you would you like to receive a speeding fine then it is exceptionally easy to say NO.
However, saying NO can sometimes be difficult when it involves family or friends. Perhaps on these occasions it is appropriate to say YES when you mean NO.
Let me explain what I mean.
If a friend invites you to a party and you find it difficult to accept the invitation because of other commitments then you could respond something like this…
Friend: I’m going to the party on Saturday night will you come with me?
You: YES, I’d absolutely love to but unfortunately I’ve got an assignment that just has to be finished and I need to focus on it this weekend.
Learning to be assertive is very important in dealing with stress. You can be assertive in many positive ways.
Hopefully this technique will provide you with another option.
Here are some more examples:
“Can you come to our planning meeting this afternoon?”
YOU: “YES, I’d love to but I have another meeting which I need to attend so I’m not going to be able to participate in yours”
“We are going to be fund-raising over the weekend and need more collectors. Would you be able to assist?”
YOU: “YES, I would be delighted under normal circumstances but I promised my children I would take them to the beach”
“Would you have time to complete our survey. It will only take a few minutes”
YOU: “YES, I enjoy doing surveys but you have really caught me at a busy time so please accept my apology at this time”