Living Alone and Accepting Aloneness


A self-employed Business Consultant from Baltimore MD emailed me a copy of some thoughts he had written in response to a recent separation from his partner and his need, at least for the short term, to spend time alone. I share his thoughts in the hope that his insights might inspire others: “I am an island of consciousness – no one else can do my thinking, no one else can do my...

A Review of the Lumie Starter 30 for SAD Treatment and Improved Energy


The Lumie Starter 30 is an alarm that has been designed to wake the user with a gradually increasing light that mimics the appearance of the rising sun and provides the right spectrum of light to increase energy levels, mood and performance. This promises to be a useful tool for anyone who struggles to wake up in the morning, who feels low during winter or who suffers from SAD. What Is SAD? SAD...

How to Say Yes When You Mean No!


There are times when it is very easy to say NO. If someone asks you to bungee jump off Victoria Falls then saying NO is easy (unless you actually want to do it). If a police officer asks you would you like to receive a speeding fine then it is exceptionally easy to say NO. However, saying NO can sometimes be difficult when it involves family or friends. Perhaps on these occasions it is...

Brain Programs That Help or Hinder Stress Management


Because attitudes can play such an important role in the direction of our lives, and also our personal stress management, it is important to understand how they influence our everyday behaviour. Professor John Young, a distinguished scholar who was described by The New York Times as one of the “world’s greatest living biologists”, wrote an excellent book titled Programs of the...

Dealing With the Boss From Hell


Is your workplace stressful? Perhaps you have the boss from hell. There are several variations. Possibly the worst type is the boss that belittles and blames their employees at every opportunity. Some do it loudly, shouting and rampaging around the workplace, while others do it with subtle put-downs and innuendos. Either way, the result for the workplace is that employees are placed under a great...

Stress Management Insights: The Psychology of Sleep


Millions of words have been written about the topic of sleep. Understanding sleep is very important because we spend at least a quarter of our life asleep. Sleeping well is essential for health, wellness and personal stress management. Managing the stresses of daily life becomes a lot easier when you get a good sleep. A good pillow, quiet environment and comfortable bed can assist greatly. But...

Control Your Attitude to Control Your Stress


Our response to stressors is essentially individualistic. However society does tend to influence and condition our responses. For example, if someone speaks to you aggressively then the common response is to return aggression with aggression. If a motorist cuts you off the common response is to yell abuse accompanied by rude finger signs. These are common responses but not the only ones available...

Does NLP Really Work?


NLP is a controversial modern approach to therapy and persuasion that is popular in some businesses and particularly among salespeople. While some psychologists have historically found it interesting for clinical and therapeutic application, it is surrounded by some dubious scientific claims and even quasi-religious zealots which give the practice a bad name. It’s considered pseudoscience...

How to Regain Confidence After Someone Puts You Down


All of us have at some time or other experienced an unpleasant put down. While a well-timed compliment can do wonders for our confidence, a put down can have an even more profound impact on our self-esteem. This is especially true if the put down comes from someone whose opinion we value, or someone that we really like. And it can be especially devastating when the put down is referring to...

Addiction – How to Stop Enabling a Drug Addict


Once you have found yourself in a relationship with an addict it can seem like there is no way to define your relationship without referring to the addiction like it is a third party. You can see no way of walking away from the relationship without your addict partner starting on a downward spiral towards self-destruction. Without you by his side to keep him going he would be in danger of losing...

Keith Hillman

Keith Hillman

Keith Hillman is a full time writer specializing in psychology as well as the broader health niche. He has a BSc degree in psychology from Surrey University, where he particularly focused on neuroscience and biological psychology. Since then, he has written countless articles on a range of topics within psychology for numerous of magazines and websites. He continues to be an avid reader of the latest studies and books on the subject, as well as self-development literature.